16 Things Women Shouldn’t Have To Deal With

Hi my name is S and being a woman shouldn’t be as difficult as it, but that does not make me less proud to be one, it is my diadem.

I cannot begin to list all the challenges and hoops I have to jump through just to reach my goal, hoops that shouldn’t exist.

As not just a woman but a feminist, I want the world to recognize the full untapped potential of women. I want the world to be more accepting of women so that by the time my baby sisters are old enough to have some form of understanding of the world, it won’t be as harsh, hopefully, then their gender won’t be a hindrance to achieving whatever they put their hearts to.

Ladies, and men who are feminists, this is the kind of future I hope women will have:

1. I don’t want to live in a world where men police women for how we, adult females choose to clothe ourselves. A world where women should not be told to mind how they dress so as not to fall victim of sexual assault.

2. As a woman, I don’t want to live in a world where women are blamed for being sexually assaulted. I want a world where a woman’s CONSENT is not taken for granted.

3. I want a world where women can walk into pharmacies to buy their own condoms and emergency pills without getting condescending stares.

4. I want to live in a world where men don’t ask women if they are ‘giving attitude/being b*tchy’ because they are on their periods. I want to live in a world where men don’t make insensitive comments about women menstruating because I believe that if men went through the agony of bleeding every month, they would be better behaved. In fact, I believe that women are superior to men BECAUSE we menstruate, yes I said it.

5. I want to live in a world where when women can turn down sexual advances without been seen as ‘fronting’. I want to live in a world where women can own their sexualities, a world where women won’t be slut-shamed for even having CONSENSUAL sex.

6. I want to live in a world where women are not looked down on for their decision to remain unmarried or to become single parents.

7. I want to live in a world where the immediate reaction to a woman’s suggestions is not dismissal because heaven knows women are freaking brilliant.

8. I want to live in a world where men treat women with respect because we more than deserve it.

9. I want to live in a world where women come together to oust men who have treated them badly because they know they don’t have to deal with abusive partners.

10. I want to live in a world where men can’t dictate what women can or cannot do with their bodies.

11. I want to live in a world where women are constantly breaking glass ceilings created by men in society.

12. I want to live in a world where men are proud feminists, a world where the word ‘feminist’ is not spoken about with contempt and disgust.

13. I want to live in a world where the gender pay gap becomes non-existent because women work just as hard as men, and sometimes even harder.

14. I want to live in a world where all women believe themselves to be beautiful, a world where the notion that ‘beauty’ is one dimensional is erased.

15. I want to live in a world where the phrase “you do well…for a woman” does not exist because women are not less than men.

16. I want to live in a world where women are deconstructing gender biases and reaching heights that all the women before us could never attain, a world changed ENTIRELY by women.

I want to live in a world dominated by wonderful brilliant strong-ass women because there are millions of us.

I’m going to repeat the prayer Funmi said to me this morning “Happy Women’s Day, May f*ck boys remain far from you”.

I am Bold For Change!


Ladies, share some of the changes you want women to achieve in the coming years.

  • Moroxi!

    MissS (see what i did there?..lol). Reading this article reminded me of how entitled some women think they are. Haba! You’re not the only one with issues.

    March 8, 2017
    • Twisted

      I’m reading it.
      whether or not you agree, calling someone leaky brain is going too far.
      Dont you think so?

      March 8, 2017
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      March 8, 2017
      • This made me even more curious to know what was said. #CaveyIsAnAmebo ????

        March 8, 2017
      • Moroxi

        sounds like i’ve built up quite a reputation for myself…supension ke?? Lmao TNC stop playin abeg abeg. Its a pity that @Uche‘s comment is now rendered baseless ..Sooo not fair guys. Lol

        March 8, 2017
    • Bkd

      I’m sure you can pass you’re message without resorting to insults. It’s either you agree or don’t agree with her points. Please drop the name calling next time you have something to say.
      As for the feminist, please it’s about time you and your kind get more proactive. I’m a feminist but feminism without action I should nothing.
      I have said it time and again. Thebes’s only way to achieve gender equality I see to fight religion/tradition.
      I understand your struggle and I also wish for such a world but the facts are there. You can’t push feminism while holding on to tradition and religion, an so all of the other pop cultures women love so much.

      March 8, 2017
  • Uche

    When nobody responds to your comment so you have to post it 3 times for effect must be sad

    March 8, 2017
    • Twisted


      March 8, 2017
  • Oluwiz

    I also want to live in a world where women are not their worst enemies……

    March 8, 2017
  • Sara

    I want to live in a world where I can be whoever I wantu be without hearing pple say, “my dear are u sure u can do it? It’s a man’s job o”
    Gender roles exist even in nature, but limitations are our (humans) doing

    March 9, 2017
  • MoV

    I feel that women are even their own enemies. I don’t know if I am a feminist or not, but I feel that if a woman decides not to cage herself with either the world’s expectations or the society’s limitations, then, she is good to go.
    Let’s face it. The trauma women go through won’t change, neither will it reduce. Some men are just scums, ( women inclusive, dare I say). But I should be able to choose if I will subject myself to any unfair treatment or not. I mean, I can choose to do as I want.
    The society won’t change. The world will remain recalcitrant in this matter. But we must choose to let ourselves all out and be all that we can be.
    Should we stop talking about it, hell to the No. But we can sure do more “acting”.
    Another thing is ehn, women are the “causer” of their own woes. It’s deep down. We are the first to cast a stone, the first to talk down another woman, the first to discourage the girl that decides to be a barber, the first to point accusing fingers at the tape victim.

    So tell me, how will the “world” change? Thought we run the world..
    My one cent

    March 9, 2017
  • Amaka

    I want to live in a world where women lift other women up, not be the first to downgrade, backbite accuse other women for trying to achieve success

    March 9, 2017
  • OmoProf

    well…..if men and women are truly to be equal, let’s start with this: ladies in the house, call up your man for a date and pay all the bills. Drive to his house and pick him up, and off course open the door for him (men are not averse to receiving acts of chivalry). And if he’s the one you wanna spend your life with, plan a romantic proposal (which includes decoding his ring size and the exact type of ring he would like), the get on one knee and propose. And yeah, for one month be the one to always call (not chat o,and whatsapp call doesn’t count)- 3 times a day and send him airtime to recharge his phone.

    That being said, i have no issues with most of what you have written above. I feel they are pretty valid.

    March 10, 2017
  • Larz

    Wow. So that’s the trade off. Take men out on dates, buy them airtime, call them and propose to them is ALL it takes to become equal with men. We do this and we can be made presidents, CEOs, and world changers?

    March 11, 2017
  • MoV

    Hehehhehe. I laugh in Swahili.

    March 12, 2017
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