To Chat or Not to Chat: How Cheap are Those who Text Rather than Call?

Chats are also a great way to spice up communication in romantic relationships. It can even be more tasking to write rather than just talk. Chatting is not easy. Chatting is not lazy. It is a wonderful medium for saying things that you would not think of in a voice call.

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The slow rate at which Nigeria has caught up with the rest of the world has affected us in so many ways. We do not know the extent of this effect on our psyche until we respond or express our opinion on certain situations.

In the past Nigerians have been taken for a ride. Telecommunication companies took advantage of us by selling sim cards for as high as twenty to thirty thousand naira. At the time, there were already countries where sim cards were free. The actual worth of a sim card couldn’t have been more than a thousand naira then. I remember the first mobile phone I saw: it was so big and had an ugly looking antenna. We had to get to a cybercafe to send or receive e-mails.

Fast-forward to 2017 and I see how well Nigerians interact with the various communication platforms. The average Nigerian youth is technologically savvy. We have taken social media platforms and wowed the Zuckerbergs of this world with what we have done with it.

Communication is an essential ingredient of every romantic relationship. It is important to recognize what tickles the fancy of your partner and know how to use it to tickle him or her. Variety is the spice of life. I have been in a relationship where e-mails were the primary form of communication. And it was really sweet and romantic. Getting email pop ups from her during work hours always put a smile on my face. Girls that know what to do with words are a turn on for me.

Chats are also a great way to spice up communication in romantic relationships. It can even be more tasking to write rather than just talk. Chatting is not easy. Chatting is not lazy. It is a wonderful medium for saying things that you would not think of in a voice call.

Not all girls like to be called. If you have dated a doctor or a girl that deals with clients and customers, it would be insensitive of you to keep barraging her with calls during work hours.

Why do I have to spend money to communicate in a relationship? How does the money spent on communication even translate to any form of commitment? There are countries where you get so many bonuses that your calls are almost always free. Does this mean that the guys who call in these countries are not serious or uncommitted?

If there are folks who want to continue to live in the nineties, let’s allow them be. As the days go by, many of these platforms will become cheaper and some will be totally free (voice calls inclusive). The future belongs to those who can evolve with changing times and take advantage of emerging opportunities.

I’m dead curious. Do all girls like to be called? Do we see people who only chat or make Whatsapp calls as being unserious and lacking commitment?

Responses

  1. Larz
    It is not about being cheap but it is about the quality of communication we have and level of commitment.

    Whilst in terms of volume, I can most of our conversations might be based on text based (emails, texts etc). I expect we should be committed enough to set aside time for face to face, video calls or voice calls periodically depending on each scenario. I am a strong believer that face to face comms has the most impact and text based comms has the least impact. Too many times, texts has been misconstrued due to lack of context you get from body language, intonation etc.

    If that makes me old school then oh well

  2. Wizzlyn
    Chatting may be the status quo but in a relationship, it should be the least option or an addition to calls and face to face communication. The effect of sight and sound cant be fully expressed in texts. Texts/chats should be regular and daily but it should be the icing not the cake. You cant be texting/chatting during emergency or emotional tensed moments. You voice carries lot of weight (negative/positive).
    I can’t stop the chatting or texting but they are additions to our face2face and calls.

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