There is always that time in our lives, we feel down and we feel like giving up and letting it all go. Everyone definitely has that phase in their lives where they feel let down and they feel no one is concerned about them. Sometimes, when we are at this phase, we need someone to talk to and lend a shoulder for us to cry on and there will always be that person who will be there for us through our rough times. I think one major mistake people make when they go through rough times with someone by their side is sticking up too much. Now let me explain, the truth remains that some people will be temporary in our lives no matter how much we love them and for that reason when you are going through that phase and someone comes into your life, do not stick up too much. The reason why you should not stick up too much is that this person has a life and other plans and sometimes, you just happen not to fit in the person’s life plans. Do not get me wrong but you have to accept that when it comes, because when that person that has been there decided to leave you or just move on without you, it does not mean the person is your enemy or the person hates you or the person is trying to betray you, there are circumstances that just happen that makes the person break away from you.
The reason I initially said do not stick up too much like your whole life depends and revolves around that person because if that person leaves, you are still going to survive alone without that person or if the person never came into the picture, you were still going to survive all by yourself. Do not get me wrong, appreciate the good ones in your life and be around them if that makes you happy but avoid making your life and your happiness depend on them because at some point, a thing may change and you may never know what may happen. It can be sad when the people that matter to us especially those who stood by you move on but trust me, you will survive, that phase of people leaving us after being there is hard but it will pass.
We all experience hard times and people come at that time in our lives and it just registers in our head that this person will be there forever, it is a probability as no one knows the future and what might happen. We constantly need to learn to be the person that is there for ourselves. It is really about you, your life is about you, everything you do revolves around you and no one else. There is really nothing a person can do for you if you are not ready yourself. A person can pray for you, wish you well, tell you nice things, and be everything for you but if personally, you are not ready to move on and be strong for yourself then that person’s effort is completely useless. It gets so hard sometimes but we all constantly need to be there for ourselves and make our wounds heal easier. Remember the person that is there for you now may not be there tomorrow and we all know life continues so we just have to really live for ourselves. Be strong and every difficult phase will surely pass and do not forget that everything in your life starts with you and ends with you so just be you and live for YOU.