What makes me think I easily fail at the ‘dad’ job is the refusal to assist sometimes. Why do I refuse? Culture defines it. Parents, especially mothers, teach their children how to behave as men and women.
While it is occasionally helpful to compare and contrast with our peers, it should not be made a habit especially as we get older, as it eventually does more harm than good. Sometimes, it seems impossible not to fall into the ‘comparison trap’ particularly when it feels like everyone is leaving you behind