A few weeks ago, news got to Nigerian Twitter of a young woman who, on her wedding day, presented a certificate of her ‘purity’ to her father who is a pastor.
First off, I just want to call all manners and shapes and sizes of BULLSHIT. Complete and total. It’s so ridiculously funny; I don’t even know where to begin to explain this certificate of said ‘purity’. What even struck me was the smile on the girl and her father’s face, like “OMG! This is such a memorable moment in our lives”, I wish I could tell them that it really isn’t.
Secondly, why on this dear ozone layer depleting earth is a twenty two year old giving her father a certificate of ‘purity’? Like, to prove what exactly? Let’s be real for a bit.
She obviously must have made some promise to her dad that she was going to stay away from sex until she got married, possibly because her dad is a pastor. So if she really wanted to prove that she can abstain from sex, why marry at twenty two? Why not wait to marry at 30 to really ‘prove’ her point about ‘purity’? I mean, 8 years of additional ‘pressure’ is something right? Ok, maybe that just sounds mean, let’s look at another point.
Why did she present the certificate to her father? Why not her HUSBAND? Why not her mother? The only reason that MAY explain this is, perhaps her mother is late. If the idea wasn’t so completely ridiculous, I’d think that such a silly certificate be presented to the girl’s mother instead. It just seems a bit off thinking that a father is enforcing the sexual freedom/lack of, of his daughter. If I ever decide to have a kid and it’s a girl, personally, I do not think it’s her father’s place to talk to her about sex-related stuff simply because no one understands the female body more than a woman does. Only excuse for this is if for some reason, the mother is not around. I can’t even picture my dad broaching me with this subject, LOL. Like I am very interested in how the conversation between herself and her dad went. Did they sit down in her room and she promised him at age 12 that she won’t open her legs to any man until she was married?
Because she hasn’t had vaginal sex (since this is the warped definition of being pure) there is ZERO guarantee that she didn’t engage in any other sexual activities – from the basic kissing, to touching, all the many things you can do with boos, oral sex and of course, the back door aka anal sex – so fuck that! baby girl could have been having a shit load of penetrative sex from her ass and still be crowned ‘pure’ by the doctor who ‘checked’ her.
Now that she has presented the certificate, she might as well save a copy for herself and add it to her file of accomplishments, perhaps even present it at a job interview since it’s such a big deal. I enjoy a great sexy time, I really do, the average person does because we are wired to but then being sexually inactive to prove a point doesn’t make you a better person. By my standards (and quite a number of people out there – thanks to TNC polls), virgins are not better than sexually active people and vice versa. Her being ‘pure’ isn’t going to make her a better wife or daughter or mother. He cannot say that if she had become sexually active before her wedding he would love her less, so…. basically, bullshit.
Obviously, this has been a rant which I’m going to end now but in conclusion, I also just wonder how the doctor conducted this ‘virginity’ test. For those who don’t know, there is no “standard medical test” for virginity – so could it be that the doctor verified by err… you know, I don’t even want to imagine that so I’ll leave that for you to tell me in the comment section.
Hi, my name is S and I call bullshit.
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