Sisteh! You Are Your Own Responsibility!

Opinion

This mindset of “my husband will take care of me” is what has held some women back from being all that they can. They do not strive for top jobs or try to make smart investments because they are waiting for a man to take care of them.

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Yes, you. yep, you are the one I am referring to sis. You that thinks that it is your calling in this life to be taken care of by a man or that once you get marry all responsibility is abdicated to le hubs. You are the one I am talking to.

Over time, I have heard a lot of the comments ladies make and the discussions that go on and I have come across too many a lady just wanting to go to their husbands’ house so they can be taken care of. What of the ladies that the moment they enter a relationship, they suddenly lack cash to make their hair and to cover their transport fare. How does that happen biko?

Shey you know that when we all die and go to heaven, na one by one we go face God o?

Yes, I know that it is traditionally the role of the man to provide bla, bla but hun, you have a brain and a functional body, what is stopping you from taking care of yourself? What is the meaning of that nonsense “His money is our money and my money is my money”?

This mindset of “my husband will take care of me” is what has held some women back from being all that they can. They do not strive for top jobs or try to make smart investments because they are waiting for a man to take care of them. What if you marry that man and he dies? Do you know how super difficult it will be to pick up your life? It is good to enjoy good things of life and get them bought for you but I tell you nothing beats being able to pay for those things out of your own pocket. The feeling is heavenly!

Come on ladies, be responsible for yourself. Let it be that your husband/boyfriend and whatever he has for you is the bonus. Be responsible for some things in the house. Will you die if you pay the children’s school fees? For me, the solution is that le hubs and I open a joint account and we’ll put a certain percentage of our individual income into that account. If we are both putting in 50% into the account, that is fair. Each person is giving according to her/his ability and contributing to the family growth while you each still have the remaining 50% for personal stuff.

If it is the case that you are not working yet, that is a different case. If you are, please step up sister and take up your responsibilities. The man is not your sole provider. Your relationship/marriage is an equal partnership not a benefactor to beneficiary relationship.

Selah

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