I Know I’m Fat; Now Go About Your Day

I have grown tired of trying to apologize for my weight. Yes, it’s something I can work on, but you can work on your stupidity and I don’t see you doing that. I’m not asking for sympathy, and to be quite honest, pity isn’t what any fat person wants. Personally, I want to be left out of conversations that revolve around stop eating this or exercise is good for you.

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I am fully aware of my bulk and the space it covers. I am aware bus drivers and conductors groan whenever they see me approach their vehicles. I even notice the passengers complain about not having enough space when they sit in the same row with me.

I am fully aware of how my bulk makes people uncomfortable, but I ask myself this constantly: if I’m trying my best to make myself inconvenient so you can be comfortable, why can’t you shut the fuck up?

I was in an elevator once and someone kept saying, “It’s your size that keeps making the door open. You know elevators have a weight limit.”

I couldn’t stop myself from saying, “You and your big head could have waited for the next one then.”

I have grown tired of trying to apologize for my weight. Yes, it’s something I can work on, but you can work on your stupidity and I don’t see you doing that. I’m not asking for sympathy, and to be quite honest, pity isn’t what any fat person wants. Personally, I want to be left out of conversations that revolve around stop eating this or exercise is good for you.

Nigerians have no filter when it comes to weight. Everyone and their mother are dieticians when you are fat. People suddenly have clues as to what exercises you are doing wrong and the right ones from you. If you have a headache, it’s because you are eating too much. If you are ill, it’s because you are fat and your body is warning you.

Maybe, just maybe I have malaria, because I have not had electricity for two days and I had to leave a window or two open and the mosquitoes in Lagos thought it was open season on my flesh hence the malaria. But no, people won’t reason like that. I probably have malaria because I was out frying potatoes and munching burgers and didn’t notice the mosquitoes savagely attacking me because of my gluttony.

I remember reading about experiences people had with airlines and how helpless they were and I remembered how I had never really thought about how big I was getting till I got on a flight and had to ask for a seatbelt extension and everyone kept turning back to look at me because the attendant repeated what I said quite loudly. I have tried to enter tricycles and the driver will tell me I don’t carry fat people in front. I have even been asked if I can fit into a tricycle and if other people can enter after I sit in one. Bus conductors have told me I can’t sit in some spots because no one can fit in after I do.

I am not trying to get pity or trying to shame people for their behaviour, because believe it or not I do not know how I’d behave if the shoe was on the other foot. I’ve seen formerly big people drag fat people and say they are just being lazy, forgetting that they were “lazy” at a point in their life too.

I’m just asking that people be aware that words mean things and you never know what space someone is in when you are calling them a name or two.

Responses

  1. Olukunle
    This are my thoughts exactly! I got back from masters and everyone kept going “oh my God kunle what happened you are so fat now, no you need to cut” no one genuinely asked why the sudden change, are you going through something? It always boils down to laziness and gluttony and no sense of empathy. Big up man!
  2. Ehiz
    Nigerians truly have no filters when it comes to weight.
    Just the other day, Bae said and I quote “So you deprive yourself of some foods coz you are too lazy to exercise” and I was like Hay God! I eat everything, ppl say that’s why i’m fat now I’m cutting down my eating this holiday period so I don’t hv to work out much, u still complain!
    1. Mo
      Lol, I am not going to lie… that is a statement i can make, but once is enough. Once i get your plan and response, i will leave it alone, i think.

      In general tho, i don’t bring up weight discussion unless you bring it up to me. Maybe because i know there are million reasons there could be and i probably have zero solution. But the moment you do, is allova, there’s nothing like ‘Minding my business’ anymore, there was a reason you felt the need to say something.

  3. Abby
    Naija people sha!
    I attended a seminar at work on Monday and when the refreshments came, I picked Fanta, my favourite only for a colleague to chime, “bring that thing here. You’re already fat. You don’t need it”…
    My response: “I love me like this, thank you”.

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