I’m Flawless But…Why Are My Lady Parts Darker Than Other Body Parts?

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When I started writing this post, I realized it was everywhere and as much as I have tried to put the point across, I doubt if I have done a great job but please be patient. I was managing my life after reading some posts here about accepting your body with its flaws and all.…

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When I started writing this post, I realized it was everywhere and as much as I have tried to put the point across, I doubt if I have done a great job but please be patient.

I was managing my life after reading some posts here about accepting your body with its flaws and all. I am not some insecure person so I digested all the posts on that while ‘feeling myself’, then I heard this ….‘See your black ass’.  I laughed off the comment and even twerked just to prove a point but it got me thinking.

This is how it happened. I was in my cute nightie, the type that is basically bum shorts and flimsy top. I was feeling flawless when suddenly bae was like ‘see your black ass’. See me see wahala, I am a dark person, what color is my ass supposed to be please? After laughing, he said he was joking in the most serious voice he could muster through the laugh but I did not believe him. After all, he could have said ‘see your black face, hand or knee or elbow’ instead of that one place that is slightly darker than the rest of your skin. Well, this started my probe.

You see, everyone wants or strives for the flawless body and we all know it is VERY hard to get there so, you just come to a point where you accept yourself the way you are.  This perfection is relative but for me, it is flawless skin. You know, where there is a continuous flow of skin from any point, elbows, knees that are all evenly toned. Unfortunately, my young days as a tomboy saw me getting into rough activities that saw me get hurt and cut severally so that has limited my greatness in the flawless skin department. Knowing this, I still went ahead to try to make the dream a reality by taking some necessary steps.

I went to a popular pharmacy (it felt like a health issue to me x_x ) and met an assistant, after telling her I need my butts to be the same color as my thighs, she laughed and recommended a small cream. I bought it but after using it aggressively on my derrière for a week, nothing changed! Bae laughed his head off and as for me, well, I guess I should have listened when I-go-die, the comedian, said, ‘No matter how one bleaches, the butt (+crack) and its accompanying lady parts never cooperate.’ LOL!

Second, The Punch newspaper must have had a fly on the wall when this conversation above happened because this post came up 2 days after this discussion. They did try to explain it down to basic melanin hormone doing @#$%^^&**%(&^%&^  (Yea, some medical grammar).

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The darkening mainly starts at puberty when sex hormones tend to increase and in the process, the melanin hormone, which is responsible for skin & hair colour would also be produced. So, the production of the melanin alongside estrogen & testosterone (they regulate the melanocyte that produces melanin cells) makes the sexual organs to darken.

The post basically said, some other thing also contribute to these darkening like, obesity, pregnancy (lots of estrogen) friction between thighs/armpits, diabetes (necks and armpits) and the main being sexual activity. As you stimulate yourself and release all these hormones, they just go and sit in your ass. Well, not that way but you get the gist.  So, the more sexually active you are, the darker the ‘abunan’ will be.

Wait o, please don’t tell me I am the only one with a darker booty that wished it was as fresh as the thighs! Well, I have just embraced them and they are really not that obvious so I am all good…accepting my flaws *side eye*.

You will not be lighter there, it is nature the African way but you can epp yourself by;

  • If you are on the heavy side, wear some form of tights to prevent your thighs from rubbing together all day.
  • Wash areas you sweat from regularly and scrub well, armpits and groin especially.
  • Watch your sugar intake to avoid diabetes so if you notice your necks and armpits getting darker than usual, please see a doctor just to be sure.
  • STOP having sex oo!! LOL! I did not say this; your hormones and some doctor advised it.
  • I hear shaving mainly with blades also makes the groin area dark too. I don’t know how true but i believe it. So use clippers/cream as often as possible over blades.
  • Google is your friend!

I don’t even have to ask if anyone has been in a relationship and noticed that their partners are darker down there. The question is, does it bother you, and will you change it if you could?  Wish I could read one comment about a guy who has met a lady that has succeeded in making herself extremely light everywhere except the down below that has refused to co-operate and how such a guy reacted when confronted with this extreme clashing scenario.

P.S: If your body is the same from head to toe, please park far, you cannot join this discussion and lament with us *tongue out*.

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Responses

  1. Black butt
    Lol. I swear I thought I was the only one who had tried to bleach their butt. Latest had been using lemons for weeks now. Nothing.
    You just won’t see me doing a strip tease and wiggling bumbum for any man with full lights.
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    1. vanilla
      Yea….not such a biggie but it wont hurt to have it all blended in! I have already joined the ‘careless’ club but that was after the failed trail….i just whistle flawless all day, everyday now!
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  2. nO2_EFX
    Getting your butt to be the same skin tone as the rest of your body…? Well, Unless you TAN, i don’t see that happening.
    I mean, even on a regular day, our faces and necks are kinda darker than our arms, chest, torso etc because the face has been getting the suns love since we were tiny little people.

    I kinda had this issue too when I was 9-10. Because the back of my thighs were also really dark. Turns out when I was little, I sat on one of those big pots they use to cook for the masses….while it was still hot. Pain must have been something else because I don’t remember that. And I remember a lot of stuff.

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  3. maverick
    Well you can apply foundation… that’s how the porn stars do it. Otherwise, good luck. Don’t think guys care tho; our asses are black too.
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  4. Olushola
    That sex angle is not true joor, unless, LOL, unless, it is everybody that played mommy and daddy growing up. It’s simple, IMO, while the hormone theory may hold some logic, darkening is natural, a natural body response.
    It comes from sitting, from the womb till death, the bum has to react to the pressure na. You sit on that mass and blood circulation is messed up, the blackening (and God help you, rashes) comes from the romance between the butt, clothing and the seat.
    Well, if yours bothers you, come, let’s rub it for you.
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    1. Vanilla
      That’s another angle I guess. We don’t all sit on our vagina or penis so your exolanantion holds only for the butt while science/hormones explains the dark private areas, yes?
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  5. ERM
    Hahahahahaha
    I used to explain why I am naturally fair complexioned and have a black cock as my body being from my dad and my cock being from my mum. Never thought it was an issue so I never did any research. Funny, all ladies seemed to like the contrast. At least now I have an idea why it is dark.
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  6. chinwe
    I am fair in complexion, but my butt is fairer than my skin however, my feet and back of palms is dark, annoyingly, noticeably, darker! At least the butt is always out of sight. #sighs
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  7. Vanilla
    At the end of the day, its not such an issue. Like no one breaks up with u for having dark privates to the best of my knowledge!

    Embrace it and no one will notice after a while.

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  8. ibiela
    Lol… I gave myself sleepless nights over this issue in the past, then I noticed everyone had a black butt and figured it was a natural occurrence.
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  9. Tee boy
    Wow….so stuff like this matters. I really don’t mind what colour it is. Dark…light…tan….pink….blue..as long as it is what is..lol.
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  10. kathybee
    You must have been a fly on my wall. Was just looking at my black butt two days ago and wondering if there was a remedy for it.
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  11. Vanilla
    Lol! Only remedy is to bleach it but I doubt u will achieve that perfect blend plus it has to be a continous process, not worth it.

    Everyone has one so….flawless you!

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  12. Zainab
    All I’m hearing is that being flawless is synonymous with NOT being darker? Sigh.. let me get back to it. Black men have darker penises & butts, and knees and knuckles and all of that but we women have decided that we must look a certain way to be “flawless”.. white (Caucasians) have fairer butts, red knees, elbows, pinkish penises & vaginas; but you know, we’ve been made to believe “fairer is lovelier” .. if measurement of flawlessness is coloration then we are all perfectly flawed. That being said, can we all just love ourselves for God’s sake??? Lawd. This is silly. I’m 5’2. Barely 48 kg. Go to the gym, run marathons and I have stretchmarks on my perfectly flawed-twerkable ass.. and I love it because it’s probably where I feel the most physically womanly. And yes my ass is darker. So is my face, I’m outdoorsy. We need to enjoy life and tell people who tease to quit it.
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  13. Mr G
    Very interesting conversation going on here. I just kinda stumbled upon it and I am intrigued. As a man I have also wondered why the contrast. However to be seriously honest I find this contrast extremely breathtakingly sexy in a woman. I generally have a weakness for light skinned ladies and forgive me for saying this but the darkness of her private turns me on so much. I just believe ladies with this are blessed with beauty. It is so sexy. Why would any lady want to change this natural phenomenon about themselves? She is like a magnificent work of art. Even stretch marks turn me on because they speak of her natural God given beauty. Who wants an artificial woman? Please biko my lovely Nubian queens please celebrate and embrace your sexy black assets with the lights on full beam. You are sexy as ever.
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  14. Billie jean
    I suffer from this a lot.I am fair in complexion,I Have hair all over my body(on my butt too),my armpit is so dark(it makes me feel dirty),my pubic area is dark too……omg.I have tried to lighten it but it’s impossible.I have just accepted myself like that.I can’t come and kill myself!
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  15. Madu
    Gentleman parts & Lady parts.
    While it’s okay to strive for an even-toned area, what’s most important is its NEATNESS. We do see beautiful & handsome people of different shades and don’t even bother to compare them with their beautiful counterparts of lighter or darker skin tones. What’s beautiful is beautiful. What’s neat is neat.
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  16. Madu
    Gentleman parts & Lady parts.
    While it’s okay to strive for an even-toned area, what’s most important is NEATNESS. We do see beautiful & handsome people of different shades and don’t even bother to compare them with their beautiful counterparts of lighter or darker skin tones. What’s beautiful is beautiful. What’s neat is neat.
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