Should it bother you at all? The flamboyant lifestyle you see your friends live on social media? I’d say it shouldn’t.
You will agree the world was easier when we didn’t have to prove anything to anyone right? Well, we certainly shouldn’t nowadays anyway.
Quite a number of us are guilty of living through our screens and for reason we feel the need to pretend to do and have whatever we wish for.
We don’t want people around us to think we are lonely or broke so we post make-belive pictures and status updates that show how much fun we can have. But we don’t have perfect lives, so why say otherwise on social media? Peharps that’s the fun of it too!
A study found that the pressure to live an online perfect life is damaging. Alot of young ladies were found to experience negative emotions connected to their internet use.
It begs the question; are social media users really benefiting from it’s use or are they unconsciously affected by all it’s negatives?
I’d say social media isn’t evil, it is how we use it that makes it have the bad influence on us.
Someone said to me once;
‘….fake people now have a platform to display their fictional perfect lives and some very ignorant people watch these people closely. They spend days and even years of their lives wishing to be like them. If only they knew how unreal some people are, they will take back their prayers to be like them…’
It’s so easy to compare ourselves to our favourite celebrities on Instagram who constantly show off wealth, their spotless skin and drop dead gorgeous bodies. Some social media visually based channels promote new plastic surgery reality shows and these shows have ladies competing for plastic surgery to make them look exceptional.
It’s okay if that’s what you want, but I feel like every you risk yourself to please people you lose a piece of yourself. It’s like declaring your lack of self-love to the world.
A recent trend is diabolic items marketed on social media. Items like rings and a so called fortune oil.
Some Nigerian sellers with huge following online guarantee young ladies that they will have better luck with men and entrap sugar daddies when these items are used as directed.
When did it get this bad? Why is there so much desperation to live a certain way and live up to certain lifestyles?
Ladies are led to believe less in their own abilities; that hard work is futile when all they need to do is get charms online and afterwards find a prey.
Actress Tonto Dikeh warned her fans via instagram recently when she said:
‘..don’t be a fool nor be pressured to live on the fast lane. I know people who travel abroad once a year and take pictures to last the gram for a year, slowly releasing them to make us feel they travel everyday…. this is to say never want anyone’s life, work your life at your pace… don’t get intimidated by anyone’s success. For all you know, you could be worth more than the life you envy or wish…’
I agree with her.
After all said and done, embrace your reality and keep grinding to make it better. Live your truth! The best things in life are free after all.