Jesus, A Friend Of All…

When the debate about same-sex marriage first came to the open in Nigeria around 2014, taking into cognisance our extreme religiosity as a people, a few questions came to my mind. For example, if Jesus Christ was to be here today and he was the pastor of a major church, will he turn a homosexual…


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When the debate about same-sex marriage first came to the open in Nigeria around 2014, taking into cognisance our extreme religiosity as a people, a few questions came to my mind. For example, if Jesus Christ was to be here today and he was the pastor of a major church, will he turn a homosexual couple back from attending a church service? Can one be gay and at the same time offer acceptable worship to God? Considering that while he was on earth he made friends with people considered to be the dredge of society- a list that may have included homosexual men- is it right for us today to discriminate against homosexuals or even make law that will criminalize committed consensual same-sex relationships?

It’s one thing to discriminate against homosexuals because we feel repulsed by the act, but another thing entirely to do so on cultural and religious grounds, least of all on Jesus’s approval. I say this because I am of the opinion Jesus did condone homosexual relationships and there are evidences in the Bible to support this. But for the sake of space, in this article, I will just pick one example.

From our days in Sunday school, many of us are familiar with the Gospel story recorded in Matthew 8:5-13 and Luke 7:1-10. There we are told that a Roman centurion came to Jesus to plead for the healing of his servant. Jesus said he was willing to come to the centurion’s house, but the centurion said there was no need for Jesus to do so. He believed that if Jesus simply spoke the word, his servant would be remotely healed back in the house. Marvelling at the man’s faith, Jesus pronounced the servant healed.

Now, this is not just another miracle story. Like a number of stories in the Holy Bible, this is a unique story that deserves careful examination for a good number of reasons. According to experts, in the original language, the Greek word used in Matthew’s account is pais. In the language of the time, pais had three possible meanings depending upon the context in which it was used. It could mean “son or boy;” it could mean “servant,” or it could also mean a particular type of servant for example one who was “his master’s male lover.”

Now, to my Christian brothers who are calling for the heads of queer people and will be quick to simply declare by fiat that the Gospels could not possibly have used the term pais in the sense of a male lover, end of discussion, I say you are all yielding to prejudice. We must look in-between the lines and let the Holy Bible speak for itself on this matter, even if it leads us to an uncomfortable conclusion. Is it possible the ‘pais’ referred to in Matthew 8 and Luke 7 was the Roman centurion’s male lover?  To answer this question, let’s take another look at the biblical evidence.

In the Luke passage, several additional Greek words are used to describe the servant who is sick. Luke says this pais was the centurion’s entimos doulos. The word doulos is a generic term for slave, and was never used in ancient Greek to describe a son or boy. Thus, Luke’s account rule out the possibility the sick person was the centurion’s son. His use of the word doulos makes this fact clear that this was a slave. In fact, Luke also takes care to indicate this was no ordinary slave. The word entimos means “honoured.” This was an “honoured slave” –entimos doulos– who was his master’s pais– servant. Taken together, the three Greek words preclude the possibility the sick person was either the centurion’s son or an ordinary slave, leaving only one viable option — his master’s male lover.

In the book of Matthew, in the course of expressing his faith in Jesus’ power to heal by simply speaking, the centurion says, When I tell my slaves to do something, he does it. When speaking here of his slaves, the centurion used the word doulos. But when speaking of the one he was asking Jesus to heal, he uses only pais. In fact, when he was quoted in Matthew, the centurion used pais only when referring to the sick person. He used a different word, doulos, when speaking of his other slaves, as if to draw a distinction. (In Luke, it is others, not the centurion now, who called the sick one the entimos doulos). When pais was used to describe a servant who was not an ordinary slave, it meant only one thing — a slave who was the master’s male lover.

In the Gospels, we have many examples of people seeking healing for themselves or for family members. But this story is the only example of someone seeking healing for a ‘slave’. And don’t forget that this was a proud Roman centurion (the conqueror/oppressor) who was humbling himself and pleading with a Jewish rabbi (the conquered/oppressed) to heal his slave. The extraordinary lengths to which this man went to seek healing for his slave is much more understandable, from a psychological perspective, if the slave was his beloved companion. For objective observers, the conclusion is perhaps inescapable: In this story Jesus healed a man’s male lover. When understood this way, the story takes on a whole new dimension.

Imagine how it may have happened. While stationed in Palestine, the centurion’s pais becomes ill — experiencing some type of life-threatening paralysis. The centurion will stop at nothing to save him. Perhaps a friend tells him of rumours of Jesus’ healing powers. Perhaps this friend also tells him Jesus is unusually open to foreigners, teaching his followers that they should love their enemies, even Roman soldiers. So the centurion decides to take a chance. Jesus was his only hope.

As he made his way to Jesus, he probably worried about the possibility that Jesus, like other Jewish rabbis, would take a dim view of his homosexual relationship. Perhaps he even considered lying. He could simply use the word doulos. That would have been accurate, as far as it went. But the centurion probably figured if Jesus was powerful enough to heal his lover, he was also powerful enough to see through any half-truths. So the centurion approaches Jesus and bows before him. “Rabbi, my . . . ,” the word gets caught in his throat. This is it — the moment of truth. Either Jesus will turn away in disgust, or something wonderful will happen.

So, the centurion clears his throat and speaks again. “Rabbi, my pais — yes, my pais lies at home sick unto death.” Then he pauses and waits for a second that must have seemed like an eternity. The crowd of good, God-fearing people surrounding Jesus probably became tense. This was like a homosexual man asking a pastor, prophet or a priest to heal his lover. What would Jesus do? Without hesitation, Jesus says, “Then I will come and heal him.” It’s that simple! Jesus didn’t say, “Are you kidding me? I’m not going to heal your pais so you can go on living in sin!” Nor did he say, “Well, it shouldn’t surprise you that your pais is sick; this is God’s judgment on your relationship.” Instead, Jesus’ words are simple, clear. “I will come and heal him.” At this point, the centurion says there is no need for Jesus to travel to his home.

He has faith that Jesus’ word is sufficient. Jesus then turns to the good people standing around him — those who were already dumbfounded that he was willing to heal this man’s male lover. To them, Jesus says in verse 10 of Matthew’s account, “I have not found faith this great anywhere in Israel.” In other words, Jesus holds up this “gay” centurion as an example of the type of faith others should aspire to. Jesus didn’t just tolerate this “gay” centurion. He said he was an example of faith — someone we all should strive to be like. Then, just so the good, God-fearing people wouldn’t miss his point, Jesus speaks again in verse 11: “I tell you, many will come from the east and the west -i.e. beyond the borders of Israel- to find a seat in the kingdom of heaven, while the heirs – i.e., those considered likely to inherit heaven- will be thrown into outer darkness.”

By this statement, I think Jesus affirmed that many others like this gay centurion — those who come from beyond the assumed boundaries of God’s grace — are going to be admitted to the kingdom of heaven. And he also warned that many who think themselves the most likely to be admitted will be left out. Now, to all homophobic Nigerian Christians, I have provided my hypothesis here. It is strictly my opinion but I have a question, if I’m right, whose example would you rather follow?


  1. Andronicus
    The majority of us here do not speak Greek.
    So you can’t be explaining your point, using words from the Greek version of the bible.
    You are allowed to draw your own conclusions based on what you understand.
    English also has words with different meanings.

    Of course Christ will never turn away a person asking to be healed.
    Especially if the person does so humbly from a place of Love.
    You must also point out that Christ moved around with those deemed sinners according to the Jews.
    He also encouraged them to turn away from sin and to live better lives.
    Many like Zacchaeus were influenced by his presence and did so voluntarily.
    That Christ loves all men unconditionally does not mean he condones their sins too.
    Remember he also says, ‘Go and sin no more’.

    Is homosexuality a sin?
    Yes or No.

  2. Butterflymind
    1. Christ does not excuse sin. He came for the sinners and granted them forgiveness from a place of love… for as many as we’re willing to open their door to the author of righteousness.

    “…but if we confess our sin, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sin and cleanse us from all unrighteousness.”

    2. No true child of God asks for the head of a sinner. A person who claims to love God must also be willing to keep his will. It is not His will for the sinful to perish and so he gives a window of opportunities for them to turn.

    3. Jesus wants to be Head over the church and the author or our lives. You cannot claim to be a ‘true worshipper’ and continually slap him in the face, nail him on the cross repeatedly by claiming to serve Him and yet refuse to depart from iniquity.
    “…you deceive yourself and the truth is not in you.”

    4. The gospel is really simple for those who bother to live by it. Christ came to save the world from the devil and from our own ability to destroy ourselves. He already chose us and paid the price. When you choose Him, you have to daily choose him over and over again, and that means subjecting the desires of your flesh to that of His spirit.

    I know this is one of those ‘touchy’ topics we never stop arguing about, but the Bible is clear on God’s stance in good and evil.
    A Christian who loves God will love the homosexual, but he will never fail to point out that homosexuality is a sin and the need for whole repentance.
    You cannot be helped if you refuse to repent and start the journey with Christ.


  3. Ufuomaee
    Dear Writer,

    I appreciate this last part of the post the most… It brought everything into perspective: “I have provided my hypothesis here. It is strictly my opinion but I have a question, if I’m right, whose example would you rather follow?”

    Thank you for admitting that it is a hypothesis. As far-fetched as it was, you really dragged it quite a mile. Thank you for saying it is strictly your opinion. I hope no one will be planning to build a religion around the “Gay Centurion”. And has answered you perfectly. Of course Jesus healed the man…whatever his sexuality! Jesus knew that many around Him were sexually immoral, greedy, idolatrous and so many other things. He came for them! Not that they will remain as they are…but that they will come to knowledge of the truth, and receive forgiveness from their sins and true healing…beyond just their physical bodies.

    And to answer the general question presented by your post, of course homosexuals are welcome to attend Church and to know Christ. But they will do so knowing that homosexuality is wrong, just as every fornicating Christian who attends Church will do so knowing fornication is wrong. The aim is that they may receive grace to repent and walk in holiness before God, and not that they will be justified that they will enter Heaven, being sexually immoral. The Church nor Jesus do not condone sinful lifestyles, we teach holiness.

    Cheers, Ufuoma

    Butterflymind and Ufomaee have said what i would have said already.

    This writer almost made it seem like it is ok to be gay, i think if the centurion was actually gay, JESUS would have said something and told him to turn from his immoral ways after healing his slave just as HE did after HE helped the adulterous woman.

  5. Ucheya
    This was how Dan Brown in his Da Vinci code twisted almost everything in the bible. Even though you claim that ‘pais’ could mean what you wanted it to be, I still have a strong conviction that it didn’t refer to homosexuality.
  6. Oluwatoyosi
    His Commandment has said it all-Love neighbour as yourself, which includes the Adulators, Lesbians, Gays, Bisexuals..etc. So I have no choice but just to love them, only by loving and not condemning will they be drawn. But however, that doesn’t mean I will try to interpret the Bible base on The Greek’s writing or something to suit myself or my view. Moreso when it’s clearly there in th Bible. And JESUS may show Love but doesn’t condon sin. May God help us in Jesus Name, Amen

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