Ever heard of Slut-Shaming?

Yes? No? It is such a common behaviour pattern in Nigeria but we are yet to grasp the seriousness of this act and its impact on the mental health and well-being of the women concerned.

Melania Trump, has steered up a hornet’s nest of vipers and pytons with racy pictures that have surfaced online, years after they were taken, now that her billionaire elderly husband is the President-Elect of the United States of America.

Decisions she made as a young sexually active woman have been used to publicly judge her and strike comparisons with other previous first ladies in discussions on the politics of respectability.

The reality is rather simple in it’s most basic form,  slut-shaming is a form of violence against women and most of us are very guilty of engaging and disparaging any female who has not conformed to our traditional notions of respectability.

The end of November sees us enter the campaign on 16 days of Activism Against Gender Violence which is an international campaign and takes place every year, running from 25th November (International Day for the Elimination of Violence against Women) to 10th December (Human Rights Day), also encompassing other important key dates. This year the theme is “Every Woman Every Child”. This campaign is widely known as the 16 Days Campaign.

During this month, I will be posting content whilst addressing issues raised around this theme because this is the best time to once again join the concerted efforts of individuals and organisations around the world to call for the prevention and elimination of violence against women and girls.

Social media has been instrumental in providing an anonymous space for victims to air their views and experiences but it has also demonstrated our lack of willingness to hold perpetrators accountable for their actions by stigmatizing the victims and by our trolling behaviour.

How do we change our behaviour and make reporting of these sorts of crimes any less stigmatizing for victims? As friends, lovers, husbands or relatives what can we do to ensure we offer the necessary empathy to the victims without stigma?

 

This month on Saturday Conversations, you can expect no-holds barred conversations and answers to your questions, suggestions and ways forward for living, laughing and loving in Lagos.

So, the content for this month will aim to address everyday issues within this theme. Let’s have fun with this, as there is just so much happening out there and every possibility to influence and change our behaviour and actions by being proactive.

If you feel strongly that you have something you’d like me to address, please send me an email at saturdayconversation [at] thenakedconvos [dot] com and I will respond.

Responses

  1. Toby
    Good afternoon Madame Butterfly,
    How have you been?

    Essentially you put up an open ticket for anyone to air our grouses.
    Mine are essentially these

    Lets talk about the intense homophobia that pervades the very essence of my country and how the Christians decided it was a fantastic idea to applaud the vote of a small minded misogynistic bigot as the President-Elect.
    Lets talk about Women sure, but at the same time, most of these women who we fight for, forget that it is us disenfranchised that fight for them, cuz i do not see many straight “african” men getting into arguments about feminist rights and gender equality.

    Sorry for the rant.
    Here is a virtual hug, your article was amazing.
    I loved it.

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