One thing I will never understand is why people on the internet feel so bloody sanctimonious about people they’ve never met and situations that they know nothing about. This is a trend that seems to be ever worsening in these days of the internet. People seem to want to be outraged at something and then they want to be judge executioner and jury all at the same based on very little.That’s why this thing with Kyrie Irving, Kehlani and PartyNextDoor has been bugging me lately. I think the way people are acting is pretty problematic. So let’s start with the break down.
Kehlani is this singer-songwriter, who apparently makes pretty good music that most people haven’t heard. She used to date this guy called PartyNextDoor. He’s an equally talented and equally unknown musician. (That’s at least relative to me because I had never heard of these people before this whole thing started, but if you’re doing songs with Chance The Rapper and Drake respectively, then it’s clear that I am not one of the cool kids anymore.) She broke up with him and started dating her long time friend Kyrie Irving (yes, the NBA superstar). That relationship was public for a while, but then they ended things privately and she started dating PND again. He posts a photo them in bed together on instagram and then Twitter lost its damn mind calling her a whore and all sorts of terrible things until the poor girl attempted suicide.
From my perspective, this all started because of PND. I don’t really care about the photo itself, even though that was a crucial point, I think what he said in the caption definitely fueled that fire, “After all her shenanigans, still got the R&B Singer back in my bed.” Somehow, the internet seems to have given him a pass for being an asshole. At the point when he posted the photo, the world didn’t know that Kehlani and Kyrie had broken up, but in my opinion, that caption makes it seem like she was cheating on him. In my opinion, that’s some really immature shit.
And then there’s incredibly hypocritical Twitter mob who attacked this unfortunate lady. Firstly, why people feel the need to insert into lives of people they don’t know only hurl malicious invectives is beyond me. Twitter spent the better part of 24 hours insulting this woman until she decided, “f*ck it, I refuse to live in this world any longer.” Seriously, how do people get to a point where they’re willing to deride a person to the level that would make attempting suicide an appealing option?? And a lot of those same shitheads came back with bullshit “stay strong” messages when it became clear that Kehlani wasn’t doing well mentally and emotionally. I worry about the ways in which in we treat each other online because everyone seems to be very quick to pass judgements about things they know nothing about. Imagine what could have happened if she had actually been successful.
I think the worst part about everything is what that (name that you call someone who pisses you off when you’re on the path to getting right with the Lord), Chris Brown said about her. “There is no attempting suicide. Stop flexing for the gram…..”
I rarely despise anyone, but Chris Brown is definitely on the list of people for whom I abhor almost every facet of their existence. I don’t wish evil on anyone, but I would laugh comfortably and remorselessly if a little kid Katt Williams’d his ass.
At least for his part, Kyrie Irving has been a class act towards Kehlani in this situation. He seems to be the only one behaving with any kind of maturity and decorum.
Everything about this situation begs the question, has the court of public opinion gone too far?? Why are we so quick to judge people and relationships that we know nothing about?? It’s not like we’re sharing their beds, so why do we seem to be so concerned about creating problems for what could be an already tense situation.
P.S.: Since we live on the internet, I would recommend reading a book called “So You’ve Been Publicly Shamed” by Jon Ronson. I have seen a lot of praise for the book in the last few months. It’s on my reading list for this year, but I haven’t read it yet.
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