Have you ever wondered how much better we’ll be at making decisions that affect our lives and those in it, if we began everything with the end in mind? Our daily living – careers, the different relationships we have in our lives, church, family, children, money, pleasure, our purpose, and every other thing that makes…
Have you ever wondered how much better we’ll be at making decisions that affect our lives and those in it, if we began everything with the end in mind? Our daily living – careers, the different relationships we have in our lives, church, family, children, money, pleasure, our purpose, and every other thing that makes up our whole life. It’s not a fun thing to do, it’s so much easier to live in reckless abandon and instant gratification, I know, but I’ve learnt that the people who are successful in life and in the things they do are very intentional about life, at least that is one of the major reasons. So I’ve been asking myself, do people walk out of your life with a healthier self-esteem? What is the real motivation behind the choices and decisions you make, and the participations/contributions you’re involved with? Have you ever wondered what your eulogy would say?
For some people, the New Year doesn’t begin on the 1st day of January but on the day that, maybe, they had their first Aha! moment – the day they gained that understanding/knowledge that brought everything together and life clicked for them, for some it’s on their birthday, while for some others they celebrate their New Year on the very day that they got another shot at life; but whichever day it begins or ends for any of us, one thing that is universal is that the end of every year is a time to take stock of all that happened that year and plan for the upcoming year. So I’ve been thinking about life and what really matters to me recently, what had changed and what needs to change, who and where I want to be, what I want to do and why, in the process of writing my goals I tried to imagine the end and proceeded to cancel a few of the things I wrote down because I couldn’t see where they were leading me.
But my mind kept going back to what I wrote a while back about couples writing their mission and vision statement, I realised that even though I have this sense of purpose I’ve never thought to write a personal mission statement, I’ve been battling with it for three weeks now but there’s always something missing and I can honestly say that it’s a hard thing to do because it brings you to yourself, calls you to go deeply within yourself, and think through your priorities deeply, carefully, and to align your behaviour with your beliefs. I abandoned it and went to do some research about personal mission statements, like that would give me answers about myself; but I needed to understand more about writing a personal mission statement and the best answer I found is in the 7 habits of highly effective people. There are two quotes in there by a Frankl fellow who said that we detect rather than invent our missions in life” I really love: “Everyone has his own specific vocation or mission in life…. Therein he cannot be replaced, nor can his life be repeated. Thus, everyone’s task is as unique as is his specific opportunity to implement it”.
And then he goes on to say:
“Ultimately, man should not ask what the meaning of his life is, but rather must recognize that it is he who is asked. In a word, each man is questioned by life; and he can only answer to life by answering for his own life; to life he can only respond by being responsible”.
I know that I have my work cut out for me in writing this personal mission statement but it’s needed because it’ll serve as my personal constitution that will give expression to my innermost values, vision, and directions, not what I think my values should be or what I was taught values are but exploring my conscience and imagination, and I’m thankful that I have to do it while I’m still single.
So what do you guys think, New Year resolution or personal mission statement?
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