I love you. You know I do. I know you know I do. It means I will do anything for you. Well, almost…
It means I will put up with your faults and your flaws and your inadequacies, because to love someone is to accept them the way they are. And I accept you the way you are. I may not always like you, but I always love you. Because you’re good for me. And you’re good to me.
But don’t for one second think that just because I love you, you can get away with anything. I will probably let a lot of things go, not because I don’t want to fight them, but because I understand that I need to be able to make compromises.
Do not take my silence for approval. Do not assume that I’m okay with it just because I say nothing. Do not exploit the fact that I love and respect you. Please, do not take me for granted.
It’s not okay to keep me waiting when we’ve agreed on a time to meet, just because you know I’ll wait. You have to value my time just as I value yours.
It’s not okay to call me whenever you like and expect me to drop everything just because you want to see me. You may be the centre of my world, but I’m in that centre too.
It’s not okay to tease me without end about past relationships just because I told you about them and how they affected me. If I did that to you, you probably wouldn’t talk to me about anything.
It’s not okay to wake me up late at night with a phone call every night just because you know I’ll talk to you anyway; As much as I love talking to you, I do need to get some sleep to be at my best. Besides, if you chose to talk to other people during the time you knew I would be awake, then calling when I’m asleep doesn’t count.
It’s not okay to not read my chat messages (or respond) when I send them to you; and then complain when I stop sending them. I’m not in the habit of having conversations with a phone screen, so be present.
It’s not okay to stop calling me in the morning for our usual morning catch up and then get angry when I stop calling you to say good night. You enjoy the affection I show you. So just reciprocate.
It’s not okay to drop me off at home early so that you can go and hang out with some other girl and then query me for going to see a movie with a friend. I can understand that you might want some space to be you without me, but I also know how to want that space too.
It’s not okay to expect me not to get upset about this other girl and then act all jealous when you hear me talking on the phone to someone else. What’s good for the goose is good for the gander. Nuff said.
I may not comment on the fact that you chose to go on your last trip without me. It doesn’t mean that I don’t know that you went with someone else. I’m neither dumb, deaf nor blind. Just patient.
I may let you have my whole day on Saturday and then on Sunday. It doesn’t mean I don’t have other things to do with my time. So don’t act like you’re doing me a favour when you decide to spend time with me.
Don’t assume that just because I come to see you every day after work, I don’t have other places that I could be. My favourite place to be after a work day is still my home. Any other place is just a detour.
Just because I like to be with you doesn’t mean that I don’t know how to be alone. I love my own company too, and I can do so many things by myself.
Don’t take me for a fool just because I turn a blind eye to your excesses. I see them; I know them; I just don’t fight them because I can’t change you.
And if I accept you, warts and all, then you better accept me as well. I haven’t asked you to change. So don’t demand it from me.
If you love the way I love you, then love me in return. Otherwise, don’t complain when I stop. I’m not a machine with infinite capacity.
To take me for granted is to disrespect me; it’s a sign that you don’t really care about me. Now, I can understand that you might get carried away because I’m so easy and uncomplicated, and not very demanding. I get it if you feel like I’m that girlfriend who’s cool with everything. But dude, don’t push your luck. Don’t assume that I won’t leave you.
I can walk away. I can cut my losses, write you off as a bad debt and walk away. I may cry; I may pine; I might even crawl into a hole and die. But I will go if I have to.
So, please do not take me for granted…