Poll: The Ex-Files – Gifts

You see, I’ve always know that all of my readers are sly and lowdown durrrty but y’all just confirmed it last week with your response to my poll. I asked the men: Polygamy or cheating on the downlow? And the women: Polygamy or cheating husband? The men answered: I


I heard a very funny story recently. This guy had been dating his girl for a while and he bought her a car on her birthday.  Unfortunately, the relationship hit rock bottom some months later. The guy didn’t take back the car much to the annoyance of his friends even though he had a messy break up. Months later, the guy spotted another dude driving the car with his ex in it all lovey dovey and all. He got really mad and demanded the car back. LOL, I must admit, that can be very painful. I have heard countless stories related to this since forever and I find it very funny and puerile to say the least that it is still happening now.

I remember the drama between Empress and Timaya, when he went to her church to ask for the car he gifted her some years back. A gift is a gift and should be treated as such. It is very wrong for you to demand for it after giving it. Fine, I understand it can be very painful especially if the gift is super expensive but really, if you are going to ask for a gift back, then maybe just maybe you shouldn’t be giving it in the first place; right?

I was listening to a radio program some months ago where this particular topic was being discussed. A caller fervidly insisted that he would take back the gift over and over again if he could especially if the circumstance behind the break up was nasty. Another took the pain to explain the different categories of gifts which includes normal gift, investment gift and impression gift or something silly like that. He continued by saying one should never give an investment gift unless the person is 100% sure the relationship is for the long haul. Honestly, people are not busy enough. Like how do you spew so much BS? Before you buy your partner a gift, an expensive one for that matter, I’m sure the person (your partner) would have earned it. So why will you wake up one morning when sh*t hits the fan and demand it back? Why don’t you ask for your virginity or your kini fluids back? (Miss me with that whole ohh that is not a gift blah blah blah) .

Now to today’s poll, will you take back the expensive gift(s) you gave your ex or will you just let it go? Please the t-shirts ladies keep from their boyfriends don’t count, we don’t care how much you bought them plus it’s not even a gift, it is our God given right!!! Don’t argue just accept it. For me, I will let just it go and see it as giving to charity and the “less privileged”. What say you?

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  • nijezie

    It's kinda sad that this is a question really, but if I got a car for a lady, and shit hits the fan, best believe I'm demanding my car keys back. Soon you people will add "if an engagement is called off, the lady should not return the ring"

    February 28, 2014
    • Boomsha

      ℓ☺ℓ no way you are getting your ring back. I'd rather flush it down the toilet or sell and give the proceeds to charity.

      February 28, 2014
      • MeyerLansky

        So far you have called off the engagement the ring is no longer yours. You have to give it back.

        Real dudes don't need to ask for stuff back. Real babes know they have to give stuff back.

        Not a lot of people are 'real". I am not and that is why I will prolly not give gifts that are too expensive (and that is relative) unless we are married

        February 28, 2014
        • stranger

          True. If the lady calls it off, then it's only normal for her to return it.
          If the guy calls it off, then the girl has the Choice of keeping or returning it.
          (Engagement ring)

          As per car, why buy such when you are not yet fully committed? Any gift bought during a relationship should be considered exactly that. A GIFT. When you give someone a gift, you don't Borrow them, you give them. Meaning it becomes theirs.

          March 1, 2014
  • fade

    In this kinda situation, it's just best to wait till it happens… what if one finds out that the idea of the relationship from the start has been games??? that I will definitely take back… but what if destiny just takes its toll??? well I still gotta get there before I can say what I'll do…. but in most of my relationships, I've let it go. bearing in mind that I'd loved her before things got messy and that's why I'd given her

    February 28, 2014
  • Snypar

    Omo Ocean's Eleven things oh! No time! Hahahaha.

    I Kid! I Kid! Of course it's a gift, u have to let it go!

    February 28, 2014
  • Well, it depends on the type of gift.
    There are some material stuff I could request for, if the breakup was bad.
    Of all the gifts I've given in my life, none has been that important to request back when the relationship got stale.

    It's kinda like lending money. Never lend an amount you can't live without, or an amount you'll dearly need soon. I only give gifts that I know I can write off and ignore. Expensive Jewelry, cars, expensive gadgets, body organs…are not among such gifts.

    February 28, 2014
  • Tola


    1. That's why you don't buy expensive gifts!!!! Duh!!!!!
    2. If it's really worth a lot of money, do you think your ex will give it up willingly?
    3. Once you have expended all that energy, what are you going to do with the gift once you get it back? It'll be tainted with memories of what could have been.

    February 28, 2014
    • tsw19

      I concur

      March 2, 2014
    • Adey

      Sell it and get your money back. I'm a girl..well woman, and I'll most definitely do that.

      March 8, 2014
  • ronnieotega

    Bought a gift for an ex and things went south before I could get to give it to him…still haven't given it to him but it's customised so will have to in the end sha.
    That's besides the point anyways…
    If an ex ever requested for a gift he gave me back, I'd ask for everything I ever gave him back too…down to the saliva I used to kiss him…lol

    February 28, 2014
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  • Boomsha

    Now playing: Demi Lovato – Let it go

    February 28, 2014
  • sade

    This is why u shud not give physical gifts unless u r married. Instead… Travel together … Buy him/her tickets or spend tym together. Sha don't b buying car or laptop or smthg that is an investment for some1 u r not invest in ng life wit.

    February 28, 2014
    • thetoolsman

      But aren't those things cheaper than say taking a trip together (not talking about a car now)..

      February 28, 2014
  • larz

    It is not your God given right to get back what you give willingly.
    However, you (the recipient of a gift) can give back an expensive gift if you choose to. It is yours to keep.

    February 28, 2014
  • larz

    With gifts

    A strict no returns policy applies

    February 28, 2014
  • amala pupa

    just imagine your parents demanding all the money spent on you back because your relationship with them has gone really sour…

    February 28, 2014
  • enajyte

    All that return my gift drama just extends the break up way too long. My theory: Cut it off and let it go. Unless you're living together, then you can pack what you consider yours (if gifts are included here, collect) and get out.

    February 28, 2014
  • Temmie

    Well, I haven’t given and received a very expensive gift before.But if I eventually do and the relationship goes wrong, wld definitely let it go.

    February 28, 2014
  • I'd return the really expensive or sentimental stuff… ring, car etc If you like pull Ocean's eleven for the rest……… NEVER!!!!

    February 28, 2014
  • On an easier said than done note, I can like to breathe and let it go for Africa.

    February 28, 2014
  • Sally Rue

    If you have to earn a gift then it's not a gift, it's like renumeration or something.

    My two cents; let go and let God.

    February 28, 2014
  • Tinti

    Poor people ask for stuff back. Period.

    February 28, 2014
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