The Naked Convos

R.I.P. Chi

I first met Chi when I was about ten. I think it was at my Grandmothers place and it was totally coincidental. My Granny’s next door neighbor was a showstopper. Her name was Anne (how could I ever forget). Anyways, it was my first time spending my holidays at Granny’s place and after playing outside for a bit, I started heading back in and that was when I saw them… well, her. Anne was lifting two boxes and walking towards her apartment. I must have stayed at that spot staring for ages. Then I came to my senses when this dude who I later found out was Chi, nudged me and told me what I needed to do. Without processing what he said, I ran towards Anne, half mumbling, I said “please let me help you with those”. Before getting her answer, I took the boxes from her and helped her take them into her apartment. For my efforts, I got a peck (on the cheek) and Anne called me a perfect gentleman. All thanks to Chi. We became inseparable from that moment.

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Chi was just so good with the ladies. We met at the university. He had quite a few friends back then but I wasn’t immediately drawn to him because I just thought he was a living gimmick who was also kinda weird. But I later found out he wasn’t from around here so my friends and I eventually accepted him and when he began rubbing off on us, that was when I knew he was special. He helped me learn so much more about women and in no time, striking the right chord with the ladies became so easy.

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Because of Chi, I learnt to cook. Don’t be so quick to say thats a good thing oh. Because I totally did it to save my life. The crazy boy somehow got into my head and convinced me to always pay for (at least) the first three dates I went to with ladies. That might not sound so bad but back then, I had just left school, earning a ridiculous salary on my first job and I wasn’t the luckiest with the ladies so those first three dates came by pretty often. Solution was for me to learn how to cook and make sure dates 2 and 3 were always some sort of picnic to which I would cook. Result was that my fortunes changed with the women and I discovered a talent I never knew I had. A talent that now earns me a whole lot of money. He will be missed.

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I remember when I told Chi I was going to ask Jennifer to marry me. After his many congratulations, he added “you do know you have to be the first to change your Facebook relationship status”. If you didn’t know the kind of person he was, you’d wonder why on earth he thought of that at that particular point in time. But that was the Chi I grew up with. And you can imagine how much guilt I felt as I changed my Facebook status to “married” after I heard about his death.

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I still can’t believe it. In fact, I know it’s not true because he always said it. Just like Jesus, he predicted his own death. He said a time would come when most people would be so mean and wouldn’t be able to process most of the things he had taught me; especially about being a gentleman. When women would laugh at you for opening their doors or think you were ‘over-doing’ it by pulling up a chair for them at the dinner table. Yes, he said it. He said women would begin to think it is their prerogative to sleep on the dry side of the bed after sex. A lot of men would bullshit his teachings by applying them to only good-looking women. As social media advanced and his prophesies began to come to past, his depression began. We all thought he’d survive it. But…. Rest in peace my good friend. You will always be remembered dear Chivalry.

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Today I have a few questions. Firstly, do you think Chivalry is dead in these parts? Was it ever alive? If your answer to the first question is yes, then I’d like to know why you think so. If not, please share instances and maybe some experiences with us. Or should I have started with the definition of Chivalry? Use the comment box to share.

Unrepentant media addict.

Comments
  • Rawwlin
    It’s been dead for a very long time we currently operate on a system with no values no honour and no respect and sadly Love is the rarest of things to find. Sha sha rest in Peace Chivalry till we meet again.
    October 4, 2017
  • Morris
    Yes, it is dead. Because, it’s not alive, i see it nowhere. Yep, you definitely should have started with the definition, google rescued me anyways, lol.
    October 4, 2017
  • Olushola
    Nah, not dead, very much alive. Many people just allow him leave for so long. If everyone can remain close to him, and still live by his influence, oh my, what a world we’d have.
    October 4, 2017
  • CeeCee
    “My definition: “His attentive treatment of me that has nothing to do with the presumption that I am weak, and everything to do with the conviction that I am valuable.” Some say that the age of chivalry is past, that the spirit of romance is dead. The thing is chivalry isn’t dead, It’s just no longer gender-based.
    October 5, 2017
  • Wizzlyn
    It may be lost in most but isn’t dead. There are still chivalrous gents out there. The problem most times is that the chivalrous ones are friend zoned or brother zoned while the ladies match up with the care free dudes.
    October 5, 2017
  • Larz
    You know that for some cultures in nigeria, childcare was never much there except for throwing money at it. Men are expected to be babied and catered for and their responsibility for the women is limited to providing financial support (or bringing in the bread).

    I remember seeing a video as a child where the man was riding a bicycle and the very pregnant wife was following him on foot with a child on her back and on wine hand and she carried a plastic bag on her other hand.

    October 8, 2017
  • Jedidiah
    The round about way of getting to the point got me…
    October 8, 2017
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