Last week we asked the ladies if they can use pregnancy as a bait to get a man to propose and 56% said no. We asked the men if they can marry their pregnant girlfriend even if they are not ready for marriage and 36% said no. Yall are so modern and all.. Good stuff..-_-
Are you tired of being cheated on? I am pretty sure no one was born a demon and there must be an underlying issue behind all these demonic acts of men. Women have tried to read the minds of men and penetrate their psyche to decipher some things they do but because men are very skilled in ‘tighting’ things to their chest and coating that chest with cement so it won’t leak, we women are left guessing and labelled angry black women. If you are in Lagos, come through to Terra Kulture later today and tomorrow to find answers. These men have decided to talk and who knows, we might find the answers we are looking for. The line up is filled with lots of eye candy too. My goons and I will be in that front row seat ogling away because it is our right!!! Also, do y’all realise Ambode’s Helicopters haven’t arrived? You don’t want to be stuck in that traffic with your heart in your mouth fam. Come through, don’t be told!!!
Let’s move on shall we?
Some weeks ago, I hooked up with some of my best girls for brunch because this life is too short not to take a day out of a month to splurge and misbehave. We talked about everything from our careers, to demons, and basically life in general. The devil decided to take control and we delved into gossip. We have a friend of a friend who has a weird disorder. We called it disorder because what she is guilty of hasn’t happened just once or twice but a lot of times. She has this habit of becoming really chummy with exes of her friends.
Now what I mean by chummy isn’t the random checking up and all. It’s the constant hook ups (friendly of course -_-), sometimes friendly crashing at his place because you know how PHCN can misbehave etc. The catch is that most times, her friends and their exes are not even on good terms. I tried to see things from her point of view being the objective Obiageli that I think I am and concluded that she’s just trying to propagate the word of God and win souls for Christ which is okay to be honest. Any reason other than that shouldn’t be acceptable but what do I know?
It is a bit confusing because she is right by her friend’s side, cussing the guy out and next thing she is hanging out with the guy. One would think, she’d be in a relationship with at least one of them but that never happens. There are so many ways to analyze this issue. So many angles. I understand that if you and the guy became good friends in the course of his relationship with your friend, then it is still okay to be friends but from a distance please. I feel it might be disrespectful to your friend to become best friends with that ex. Keep it civil or keep it moving.
One of my friends argued that in this life you don’t know the way your husband will be presented to you, so you gotta kick loyalty to friend in the butt and seize the bae. First off, why are people obsessed with marriage that they will go through any length to get that boo? I believe if a man/woman belongs to you, he/she will find you. I mean haven’t y’all ever attended MFM where they pray some strategic prayers about your future bae not having any rest or peace of mind till he/she locates you? My point is, you don’t have to hurt someone because you are trying to seize bae. Your future boo might be grinding some chic at Quilox but if/when he gets called forth by greater powers, he will find his way to you!
How did I even get here?
To today’s poll, should you remain chummy with a friend’s ex especially if the break up was a nasty one? Do you play the loyalty card and stick to your friend or are you going to adhere to the Holy book and love thy neighbour as yourself? I really really really want to understand the logic behind staying close friends with your friend’s ex but I can’t. It is probably because I’m a fiercely loyal person and it just doesn’t feel right. Maybe when I turn sixteen and my maturity is properly set up, I will have a change of heart. But till then, deuces baby!
This is my opinion though, what is yours?