When To Stop Praying And Start Telling

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Prayer is not a bad thing at all. Even the Bible affirms that in everything we should give thanks, bad or good. Feeling ashamed that your partner has started doing bad things which may endanger you and the entire family will not help the situation but speaking will. Yes, you have prayed about it for…

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Prayer is not a bad thing at all. Even the Bible affirms that in everything we should give thanks, bad or good. Feeling ashamed that your partner has started doing bad things which may endanger you and the entire family will not help the situation but speaking will. Yes, you have prayed about it for a very long time I’m sure, you need to stop for a second and think.

Often times we are told to pray about everything that we go through and keep our problems to ourselves and not tell other people including our parents for the fear of being ill-advised. Do not get me wrong, this is good counsel. The only challenge is that there are things you can pray for and there are things that need talking or discipline.

When two people are joined together in marriage and pursuing the same standards, it becomes deadly when one starts living a life that only pleases him/her. This becomes dangerous to the faithful partner who is still holding on to the love, faithfulness and reverence the marriage should be built on. There are a number of things to pray about when we are confronted in life. When we are finished praying, there are situations we need to confront.

If your partner decides to cheat, prayer alone will not stop it. You need to stop praying and start telling. You need your families to intervene on your behalf to try and solve the problem. The intention of telling is not to destroy the reputation of the other but to seek help from the right place. Sometimes we fear talking about our problems and prefer to keep it inside. To me, this is akin to swallowing poison and dying a slow death. There are diseases that may be brought home through infidelity, which could endanger your life. Seeking help for both partners may be one of the ways to avoid such risks.

If that cheating partner still values the relationship, they will repent and stop the affair. There may be reasons behind them cheating. Maybe you nag or you work so hard that you do not have time for cuddling. No one is perfect and sometimes, our failings in relationships can lead partners to seek solace elsewhere. Some of these failings are usually revealed when one partner does something wrong and is confronted. This is where proper counselling is needed for effective resolution. However, the counselling may fail and the partner may continue with the affair.

In such a case, there is nothing wrong with walking away from a situation that may endanger your life. Knowing where you stand is better than fearing the worst at all times. I have seen too many relationships go through this phase and end up in sickness and untimely death, all in the name of love and prayer.

There is no shame in telling, especially when it is done the right way.

Responses

  1. Mr X
    I can relate to and agree with the school of thought this originates from. There are things most if not all people will agree that God will not come down from heaven to do for us. For most situations requiring prayer, God has his role to play – Agreed…BUT we also usually do.

    “If your partner decides to cheat, prayer alone will not stop it. You need to stop praying and start telling.”

    As per the above quote, i would therefore say “Continue praying & start telling”. They both go hand in hand.

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