Tag: rape

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I think I might have been raped 10 years ago. I had a good first date with the guy and on the second when we were kissing, he got handsy. Before the third, I told him the limits of how far I wanted to go (and before, I practiced what I was going to say so many times) and he agreed.

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The normalized dynamic of sexual behavior is one where the man is to be persistent until the woman caves in. A lot of men think females can’t surrender to their will without coercion. A lot of females have also subconsciously reinforced that notion.The rapist have probably tried the same technique with previous “unwilling partners”.She didn’t give her consent. She was coerced into it.

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Mar 31

Sour Love

She laid lifeless. She was tired. He patted her legs and made a move to have sex with her. ‘Please, don’t do this. Please! You are violating me.’ She cried out. The tears ran freely, soaking her pillow. Her heart was broken. How could he do this to her, she thought

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It bust wide open and Temitayo’s Mum asked, “Temi, who are you talking to?” He smiled. “My…” The 16 year old looked left and right for his friends but no one was there and the sudden realization he was alone put a frown on his face. “…self.”

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Mama always avoided beating me on parts of my body that could arouse suspicion. She usually aimed for my bare back and the back of my legs. I always wondered how exactly I made mama’s life miserable.

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About Three weeks ago, I read Mona Elthahawy’s chilling book, – ‘Headscarves and Hymens’. It’s an expose of the status and realities of Arab women in their own homelands, chronicling how a mix of culture and religion has, for donkey years succeeded in firmly entrenching women as second class citizens. I’d recommend the book to…

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“Hey, what’s that word for being afraid of cramped places?” He asked. I was barely two weeks old in this school and my reluctance at being left alone in the school bathrooms or in the classrooms at night during study, was already legendary. I sought safety in numbers so frequently, it was said that I…

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Like a lightning bolt, the blow struck my belly. “Oh” I whimpered in pain clutching it tightly. Another to my unprotected head, sent me head first into the marshy, slimy floor. Blurry sight, bloody nose, chipped teeth. I could feel the rough hands rip my gown from my neck and squeeze tightly at my breasts.…

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A friend once shared a story with me. She told me about a girl who got raped in her apartment. However, when the girl made an attempt to give a report at the police station, she was shunned and discouraged by close friends and relatives. “It will dent your image jare.” “People will start treating…

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I picked up my underwear from the brown tiled floor with shaky fingers. It was still intact, with no tears. It was very girly, the sort of underwear that a seven-year-old would wear – It was pink, with one black bow in front and two smaller black bows on both sides. Then, with my underwear…

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Rita gyrated her hips as she finished off the red cup of liquor in her hand. This was, hands down, the best house party she had ever attended!! And she had been to a lot. The music was on point, the drinks were over flowing, and the guys were sooooo hot!! She was glad she…

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When a man says a female who willfully puts herself in a compromising position may get molested, most females are quick to label such men potential rapists. Such blind conclusions baffle me. Just because a man has no right to touch a female who’s practically naked doesn’t make it okay for her to send the…

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Oct 13

Ash Tea

The smallest and most simple of things can evoke memories I thought I forgot. It’s been four years since I came visiting, but now mum is ill, she needs me. Dad passed away a couple of months earlier and I personally feel like she’s just aching to meet him. After leaving her bedside, I meandered…