Sex Is Not Oxygen – Rape Is Evil.

The normalized dynamic of sexual behavior is one where the man is to be persistent until the woman caves in. A lot of men think females can’t surrender to their will without coercion. A lot of females have also subconsciously reinforced that notion.The rapist have probably tried the same technique with previous “unwilling partners”.She didn’t give her consent. She was coerced into it.

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Rape is a form of social violence that stems from a sense of sexual entitlement. A man feels he is entitled to the woman’s body and that is just plain sinister. I am glad it has become a biweekly convo across social media platforms.

First of all, my fear about rape is that deep down in the recesses of the minds of most men, rape isn’t a big deal. My fear about rape culture is that a lot of men are numb or indifferent to the reality of rape. I also fear that the pandering that goes on social media is a guise.

Men joke about taking a girl home after a nice time at the club.They see it as a “favor for a favor”. If she is not in the mood for sex then she shouldn’t have ordered drinks on their tab.

The normalized dynamic of sexual behavior is one where the man is to be persistent until the woman caves in. A lot of men think females can’t surrender to their will without coercion. A lot of females have also subconsciously reinforced that notion.The rapist have probably tried the same technique with previous “unwilling partners”.She didn’t give her consent. She was coerced into it.

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In uni, I actually thought I was living in a mirage when tons of ladies were frequently coerced into copulation in my apartment block popularly called “halls” (resident buildings for students) but what shocked me was that these females came back. I am talking less than twenty four hours of the incident.

It was a long time ago. I was watching the movie “Drumline” with a couple of my hallmates in somebody’s room when I heard a piercing scream.I heard my name being yelled . As I made to get up.One of my hallmates held my wrist and told me to “take it easy”.

A sickening melodrama was unfolding.The lady I shared a room along with another lady who was accomodating us at the time, was being “raped” by one cultist. I saw this dude stab two people with a broken bottle just barely a week after I came to that place.

According to her, he had his way with her. She was in a ruffled state and I felt terrible but what would I have done?I was barely twenty. I envisioned the worst.I have seen too many funeral processions for young people who had dreams like me.I was too sexy for a coffin.

The next day came. And the day after the next.And the day after the next.

And on that fateful night which I can never forget , they made love in my presence. I swear on my unborn and in conceived child.

I was rolled up tight in my blanket like a hibernating dormouse and they were both a few feet away from me. Grunting and moaning while it rained torrents that night.

I have seen some crazy shit in this life.

I grant you the strength to be able to bear this truth.

We live in a devious world.

The desire for sex cannot be abated.

Rape will probably never end – sadly.

Sociopaths are everywhere. On social media, in your church. Your neighbors. Even your friends.

Everyone (but females especially) is a potential rape victim. In December, 2017, a mother and her daughters were raped at gunpoint and shot afterwards by their assailants. In front of the man of the house. As reported by one Twitter handle.

 

The issue of safety precaution (dress code, not staying out late, etc) should be emphasized before the incident. NOT AFTER!!!!

Let us challenge conventional masculinity. Stop making excuses for men who have zero control over their penises. The male sexual urge can actually be controlled.

Let us teach our sons about consent at a very early stage.

Sex is not oxygen. Rape is evil.

Let us come together to stop it.

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  1. Mo
    -We live in a devious world.

    -The desire for sex cannot be abated.

    -Rape will probably never end – sadly.

    -Sociopaths are everywhere. On social media, in your church. Your neighbors. Even your friends.

    Major Takeaways, especially the last sentence. the need Morality and Principles can never be overemphasized.

    -Let us teach our sons about consent at a very early stage. This is also very important, orientation needs to be deliberate, both for male and females mbok. Because, times can like to change, and yeah, for the worse.

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  2. mr.man
    The issue of safety precaution (dress code, not staying out late, etc) should be emphasized before the incident. NOT AFTER!!!!
    I respect you a lot for the above stated. Even though a rapist has no valid excuse whatsoever for his action, necessary precautionary measures can be taken not to fall a victim. Well done Isaac Charles you did justice to the topic without fear or favour.
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