Don’t do it – don’t run away just yet, Dammy.
I’m only here to help you, I promise. And please don’t be so quick to dismiss whatever I have to say as rubbish, because you’ve already (so quickly) determined that I won’t understand. And you’re right – I won’t understand why you do the things you do, especially for HIM. I won’t understand why you fulfill the duties of a wife for the fool that’s barely or forcefully only claiming you as his woman.
I won’t understand why you let him trick you into believing that he’s entitled to your cooking, and cleaning, and ‘secks’, amongst all the other things you do for him. I’m not judging you for having a good heart – really I’m not. And I’m not judging you for sharing the food you cooked with him, or even once in a while taking it upon yourself to cook for him. I’m merely telling you that I don’t understand why you think that taking on the responsibilities of his wife, when he is mistreating you, and not even showing you half of the respect you deserve will help you keep him.
And please don’t try to convince me that you’re doing all these things simply because it’s who you are- tell the truth and shame the devil. You aren’t- you’re not doing his laundry and keeping his house, and cooking, and bending over forward and/or backwards JUST because you’re a good Samaritan. You’re especially not doing it for someone you’re kinda, sorta, (but not really) with. Because if you were that type of person, you would do it for everyone and even if that isn’t the case, you wouldn’t expect anything in return – and let’s be honest… you do want something in return. You want his love, and his loyalty. You want him to acknowledge you, your feelings, and reciprocate the efforts you’ve been making. You not only want him to choose you and publicly declare you his woman, but you want to be his good woman- the one that cooks for him and his friends, and cleans, and doesn’t ‘run away’ despite whatever manner of disrespect he thinks to throw at you. The woman that behaves in many ways like a wife – only that you’re not. You’re not his wife, Dammy – so don’t do it.
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