It’s okay to grieve. Cry if you want to. Scream into your pillow, but do this without letting it affect the person you really are. And then go on to mentally pick out all the good in the relationship that lured you there in the first place, stuff you actually enjoyed and would love to have again.
Here we go again.
Again you let your guard down, loved someone, and just like you predicted it ended in shambles. But did you die?
So yeah you must have listed out all you invested and lost in this last relationship against your better judgment, and that’s fine and perfectly normal, just don’t go out narrating your story to everyone you come across and reliving the heartache more times than you should.
How about all you gained? Look again. You don’t think you gained anything? No life event is ever without valuable experience. You learnt something, even if you weren’t looking out for it.
It’s okay to grieve. Cry if you want to. Scream into your pillow, but do this without letting it affect the person you really are. And then go on to mentally pick out all the good in the relationship that lured you there in the first place, stuff you actually enjoyed and would love to have again. Consider your love language: they might be things your previous partner possessed, but at least you now know what you need can be found in other people too.
You were actually happier when you loved and in return was loved by someone. Peep those tweets from six months ago and see how happy your soul was and, like D’banj said, “Don’t get it twisted; love is a beautiful thing.” You will always have something inside of you that is unique and appealing to your next lover, no matter cliché that might sound. Know what these things are—your weapons of love—arm yourself with them and prepare yourself to jump back into the pool of love again.
We all need people to love us in ways we can’t love ourselves. Because, love is one of the best things to happen to us humans (close in second place of course is our own Afang soup & pounded yam). We love and feel that thing we call heartbreak, but I bet we would all pick being loved ten times over.
Those butterflies you thought died bout a week ago are back? You think it’s too soon? Who says good things shouldn’t happen so soon with you? Just be vocal about your fears to this new lover and ease into them. Don’t bring your insecurities from previous love bout into this new adventure. Love always finds a way.
There are too many dope people in this world for you to be alone with some much love in you to give. Too many people, bruh. Live life ,love life, dance in the rain happy soul.&