Women Are Scum Too!

Men are scum. We have been told this repeatedly by the women both on and off social media. While I’m not here today to argue against the scumness of men, partly because it’s pointless, I will like to bring to our attention a much underrated group of female scums. Now these women are equally, if…

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Men are scum. We have been told this repeatedly by the women both on and off social media. While I’m not here today to argue against the scumness of men, partly because it’s pointless, I will like to bring to our attention a much underrated group of female scums. Now these women are equally, if not more dangerous than the male scum. I’m not talking about the women who have five boyfriends at once or the light-skinned ones who cheat on you with senators. No – I’m here to talk about women who lead men on along the path of romance, like a shepherd leading a herd of sheep, and then sacrifice them eventually on the altar of heartbreak, cleverly disguised as friendship. Yes! If you’ve ever done that to any man, I’m here to tell you that you are scum! I repeat, if you are a lady and you have at a point in time given a guy that was into you an impression that you were also into him, either knowingly or unknowingly, either in your words or actions, all the while knowing that you had no interest in dating such a guy, YOU ARE SCUM!

Scenario: Bayo had always liked Becky from the first moment he set his eyes on her at a friend’s party on campus. Her beauty, calm mien and sense of humour were one of the features that made him fall for her. And he never refrained from showing her how crazy he was about her. For the following three months after they met on campus, Bayo and Becky got closer and became like two lovebirds. They would take strolls round their school campus at night till the wee hours of the morning and then go on to talk for hours on the phone even after they got back to their rooms. He would take her out on numerous dates and serenade her with poems of how much he loved her and she also would often spend the whole day in his room on weekends and call him for hours too. She even cooked for him sometimes. Everyone else actually concluded that they were dating but in reality Bayo had not asked her out formally. So on her birthday, he got her a pair of beautiful red Louboutin shoes along with many other expensive gifts and then took her to an expensive restaurant on the island with the money he had saved. It was during this date that Bayo decided to officially seal their relationship by asking her out only to get the rudest shock of his life. She said no! And her reasons were that she only saw him as a very good friend and didn’t want to ruin the friendship they had because she treasured it so much.

Now I’m sure many guys are familiar with this type of scenario either from personal experience or through the experience of a friend. It’s sadly more common than we like to admit. Judging from the scenario above I expect that every reasonable person won’t blame Bayo for thinking Becky felt the same way about him because, I mean, the signs were there. But then you find a lot of these women who give off such signs when they have no intention whatsoever of dating the guy and I can’t help but wonder aloud why these women act like this. They didn’t know he liked them that way? Really? So with all the late night calls, lavish gifts, expensive dates, romantic poems and all, they thought he was just being generous or he was just being friendly? Or they later realized they don’t like him that much? Why didn’t they come to this not-so-sudden realisation early on? Why do they let him fall so madly in love with them and raise his hopes that they were feeling the same way about him too. Why didn’t they question the numerous calls or the romantic gifts and texts? And even worse why did they give him the green light when they knew their road was one-way. Unless she’s a psychopath, I don’t believe there’s any woman who doesn’t know when a guy really likes her. Even if you’re not 100% sure, there are always signs that tell that a guy may really like you and doesn’t just want to be friends. But then because of the scum these women are, they refuse to set him straight early on probably because they know that would be the end of all the love and attention the guy showers on them. And we all know attention is to women what water is to fish. So in the end they end up creating a heartbroken monster who makes it his mission to break as many female hearts as possible and thus, the cycle of scumness is born.

Dear ladies, please if you notice a guy is into you and you don’t feel the same way about him, kindly let him know early on. If he showers you with love, don’t reciprocate the gestures. Don’t call him for hours or get mad when he doesn’t call you. Don’t call him boo or give him pet names or give him more attention than you give other guys in your life. Don’t go about wanting to be friends with a guy that wants a relationship from you. Make it obvious early on that it’s only a one-sided affair. You can be polite without making him feel special or giving him an impression that you’re into him. And don’t say you didn’t know a guy wanted a relationship from you. There’s NO guy that would devote all his time, money and attention to you just to become friends with you. NO GUY! Let’s stop this scum behaviour and make our scummunity a better place.

I know many of you can’t wait to vent your opinions for and against the motion, feel free to do so in the comments.

Responses

  1. oluwabunmi
    saga is so pained, some personal experience ish… lol
    but eh u are right sha, I had a few friends who caused some heartbreaks
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  2. Oluwiz
    Louder!!!!

    “There’s NO guy that would devote all his time, money and attention to you just to become friends with you. NO GUY! ” –

    This is spot on. I think I’m safe to say every ‘guy’ has been a victim of this though, in one way or the other. And most girls have done it at some point in time: heck, they talk about it all the time.

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  3. Larz
    That a girl talks to you on the phone for several hours does not mean she is into you. Women are social creature and many of them can spend hours talking to an acquintance self not to talk of a friend if they find you interesting enough.

    Every human being should love and value themselves first before doing so to other or even worst before expecting it from others. I don’t think the onus is on the object of your desire (man or woman) to protect you from your desire. You should value yourself too much to squander your resources to unrequited love.

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  4. Samm
    E dey sound like say this Bayo’s middle name Saga. Truth is scumliness knows no gender. And really, some people are just terrible by mistake or inaction. We go dey all right.
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    1. Sagachristos
      Lmao you dey mad. Very true though, and that’s the purpose of this post. To sensitise such people about the consequences of their mistakes/inactions. We indeed go dey alright
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  5. Jude
    I have been a victim of this (I hope victim is the right word) in defense of the ladies however, I think a guy should be able to know if a girl is just leading him on, well that’s my own point of view
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  6. Na wa o
    All I can say is Bayo made his bed. Why was he trying to buy himself a girlfriend without making sure of the relationship status first. If you feel something, say something, don’t assume. I think it’s unrealistic to expect a woman to à propos de nothing just announce that I like you as a friend. No playing, no casually mentioning liking or loving, state your intention from the start (will you be my girlfriend or whatever status you’re looking for) so you know where you stand and don’t get burned. That is all.
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