Hey guys!!! It’s been a looooong New York minute. Christmas is here again!!!!!!!!! I’m super excited partly because of the grand arrival of harmattan which my skin is soo thankful for and also because the level of turn up this particular year is going to be gangster. Apart from all these, the general vibe makes me…
Christmas is here again!!!!!!!!!
I’m super excited partly because of the grand arrival of harmattan which my skin is soo thankful for and also because the level of turn up this particular year is going to be gangster. Apart from all these, the general vibe makes me put all my worries and fears on hold, kick off my shoes, scatter my imaginary locs and enjoy the experience! Special shalla to my fam FunmiO, S, Sirkastiq and ReniJ for holding down polls for me while I was away!!! Me love you long time.
Let’s move on shall we?
Last week, we asked: What would you do if #SheSaysNo! 36% of the guys chose: Is she ok?? Is it because I asked, my friend gather your things let’s go and 47% of the ladies chose: Somebody can not play with you again? Which one is break up? Ladies, I hope you can read the writing on the wall?
I heard a story some days ago and I thought to share. A friend of mine is friends with this particular couple who live outside Nigeria but visit sometimes. The husband came home for vacation some time ago and the wife told my friend that he can hook her husband up with a babe. In her words, her husband has been amazing all year to her and the family so she feels he deserves some sort of reward for being amazing. She specified though that she didn’t want any 18year olds because those ones fall in love faster than the speed of light. She also said she didn’t want a babe in her late 20s because she is probably under pressure to get married and will do anything to get that status. She prefers 25 and 26 year old babes. My friend then asked me ‘is this something you can do? Can you give your husband a cheating pass?
‘Don’t you think the husband will respect the wife more if she does that?’
‘I believe it would strengthen their relationship and give the the wife the upper edge in the relationship’
First of all, I want to know why any woman would think a man deserves that kind of reward for doing what he ought to do in his marriage?
It’s almost as if you are conceding to an unspoken fact that you are not worthy of him and are not good enough, so him doing all those amazing things and treating you like the queen you are is truly a gift to you. You both chose each other. He chose you despite your imperfections. He looked beyond the fact that you suck at oral sex compared to Shakiti at Kuramo beach so what changed? When y’all got married, the package wasn’t to stay lawfully wedded to you and get the occasional loving from Aisha, Linda and Shalewa with your consent. The whole point of ya’ll getting married was for you two to make each other stronger and better. Some women may think if there is something they can’t give their husbands, then they can’t be mad if the boo goes out and gets it elsewhere – but yes, you can. As a woman, you were designed to be complete by yourself. Not with the help of other women.
One guy actually said
‘Men are wired differently from women and are not monogamous by nature. So a cheating pass is a way the woman accepts the reality.’
Please miss me with that bull shit. Who did this wiring? It has to be Fatai Rewire because God cannot wire anyone to be this badly behaved. These same men will not give their wives cheating passes but will gladly collect from them if they offer.
I read an article about how Monique gives her husband a “pass to cheat,” and I read the same thing about Toya Wright giving her husband Memphitz a pass to cheat. While the situations are a little different, both of them are basically saying they want their man to have an ‘honest’ way to step outside of their marriage, under their supervision. But then again, if you are not leaving your house at 3.30am to resume work at 7am, if you are not queuing for fuel, if you are not staring at the amazing decorations on Ajose Adeogun, wondering how you can convert all that light from the Christmas decorations to electricity in your dreary little apartment where power has been seized, giving cheating passes to your boo yearly should be a thing of priority. At the end of the day, do whatever works for you and makes you happy.
Dear future husband, you know I love you scatter already therefore if I ever give you a cheating pass, please be scared.
Be very scared.
Over to you guys. There will be two polls each for the ladies and the guys. Vote with the fear of God 😀