Hey people, Toolsman here welcoming everyone to the start of another great week. Hope your weekend was as awesome as mine :D. Too many talking points from all that happened over the weekend. I mean, we finally got over past North West, I finally got to see Man of Steel (contrary to what some think, I think it’s an ok movie), Super Eagles lost to Spain (I thought they did well overall though), Dbanj happened (didn’t attend the DKM concert, watched bits of it online, wasn’t blown away) and the “awesome” people of the UK placed a 3k pounds bond on Nigerians travelling to the Uk (I’m still quite pissed on this one so I’ll just skip it) and off course, there was BBA drama (getting tired of it now though).
Today, I’m remixing a post a wrote a while back because it really does capture all I want to say. I’m going to be talking briefly (cause I’d like to hear more from you guys) about something that has always gotten on my nerves. Its what I call the 10/3 theory. Having as many female acquaintances as I do, I get to sit in on their discussions from time to time and it never fails to get to me when I hear women dish out their requirements for guys who should even consider making a pass at them. (I’m not leaving out guys from this theory).
- Tall (You know, Not like LeBron tall but Lance Gross tall)
- Dark (They will even go ahead to specify a particular tone of “dark”. Not Wande Coal dark, Dbanj dark)
- Build (He cant be too buff o. I dont want stone, but he also can’t be a fatty. Just soft enough is fine.)
- Sense of humour (I’m sure if there was a scale for measuring this, they’d include values)
I just highlighted a few, we all know how long this list can get. Now, I have no issues with this. Everyone should have specific things they look out for in the opposite sex. My issue is what you base your choices for the components of this list on. Life is sometimes not fair, I mean, I still will never understand how or why Jada ended up with Will (-___-) … but yes, it’s life, there are exceptions but that shouldn’t form the reason why you look like this:
And you want a man like this:
Like, caaammmmaaannn. In the words of one of my blogger mentors: “Most of the people in the world are not extremely attractive. If that were the case, there wouldn’t be any ugly babies and a limited need for plastic surgery.” Yes, I strongly agree with this statement. I’m a decent looking young man and that’s it. I have flaws but I spend a great deal of my time trying hard to correct the ones I know I can. Why? Well, firstly for myself and then, because I have a goal. I know what I want from the opposite sex and I know what I have to do to get it.
Too many times, I’ve seen an extremely good looking dude end up with a erm… not-so-good-looking chic and everyone around talks about how she must have “the good-good” or how she’s a vixen in bed and that’s how she must be keeping him. Well, she might be all of that and even more but if he’s rubbish, then they are rubbish and this here is another myth I hope to deal with in another post.
Now, I’m not saying all of this because I’m bitter or whatever. All I’m just asking for is just a little bit of fairness from our females when they’re putting together their almighty list. And if you choose not to be fair, then please put in some visible effort. Cut the carbs and hit the gym 4 times a week. Shave those legs (PLEASE SHAVE THOSE LEGS). Wax. Wax. Wax. Watch a lil more CNN and less Africa Magic. Then you can reach that stage where you’re like me who wants Keri Hilson. Fair right? :D
Ahem. Well, well, I’m still far off (ok, very far off) but you get my point. Have you also noticed this and you feel strongly about it? And I know I wrote about women but we men also do this so women have my permission to at us as well. You know the drill, use the comment box to express you.