We had nothing in common but we saw eye to eye, he wasn’t what I expected but I made exceptions. How long did I expect all this to last? I had no idea. My emotions never dwindled but my mind spurred out of control yet I never succumbed to reasoning.
When conversations about abuse of women are trending, it seems men too want to point out that abuse is not exclusive to one sex (#metoo vs #mentoo), but do men coming out somehow invalidate women’s experiences?
From a very little age, I have always wanted to do things my way, it was mostly my way or no other way. I have always been the black sheep, I remember my mother always comparing me to my brother “why can’t you be more like your brother”, she will say. She tried to tame me in lots of ways.
There are, in fact, many things true under the sun. One of them is this : the ultimate goal of the average Nigerian woman, and please note that I use the word “average”- a word meant to include everyone and everything though not always successful, in my opinion. Still, maybe I should say, more often than not, the ultimate goal of the average Nigerian woman, consciously or unconsciously, is marriage.
Nigerians constantly do the most unseemly things merely to survive. Whether it’s walking to and fro inbetween oncoming traffic from 8 till late selling packaged sausages or carrying around a brush and water just to wipe windscreens so they can get 50/100 naira just to get something to eat.
First of all, my breasts are huge. None of my regular bras can quite capture them in their entirety anymore, and the discerning observer can notice this struggle going on underneath my top. There’s that annoying side boob spillage plus the bra lines are clearly marked now no matter what I’m wearing.
This month, Lagos Fashion and Design Week will make its return, a flagship platform that has incubated, nurtured, and exported Nigerian designers to rest of the world. As before, many designers from Nigeria and the continent will be hosted under its brand and will continue to be that way for a long time.
What I have a problem with is, when ‘the man is the head of the family’ springs up, it is usually said to tell the wife to condone whatever she is getting from the husband especially when she isn’t comfortable with it. The phrase becomes a justification for abuse. A man can cheat, dope, steal your money, be irresponsible as a husband and as a father, he is still the head of the family…
How did you used to put one letter in front of another to make up words that constructed sentences that which those who see joy in reading considered worthy of reading?
Some say age is only a number when it comes to the heart. Where the women liked the vitality the younger man brought into their lives, men liked the confidence and maturity in the women, in spite of the sometimes uncomfortable generational differences and huge potential for infidelity.
I still can’t believe it. In fact, I know it’s not true because he always said it. Just like Jesus, he predicted his own death. He said a time would come when most people would be so mean and wouldn’t be able to process most of the things he had taught me…
It is my opinion that if we must stick together, the component units (states) must be independent of the centre and grow at it own pace. No longer should we rely on Aso Rock for all and sundry.
Less than 200m away on commencement on the journey, a clashing sound came crashing from behind. Being a medic, the first thing I did was to feel for my legs and hands.