There was a certain man who was ready to get married, he was in a relationship with a successful young woman, they were both Christians and naturally they were praying for their relationship; trying to get confirmation from God on His will concerning them. it so happened that the man became convinced that his intended…
There was a certain man who was ready to get married, he was in a relationship with a successful young woman, they were both Christians and naturally they were praying for their relationship; trying to get confirmation from God on His will concerning them. it so happened that the man became convinced that his intended was the will of God and he decided to propose to her, but he thought to speak to his pastor before going ahead, his pastor requested a prayer session with him and afterwards told him that his intended had spiritual issues which isn’t restricted to her life alone but is really a family problem, he was advised to end the relationship immediately and wait on God for someone better.
A young man decided to propose a business partnership to someone he knew from high school, however he went for prayers in church and was told that the partnership would be a mistake because the intended partner has some spiritual issues from his village that will make the business unsuccessful, the fact that the high school friend was an economics major and had years of valuable experience in the business world wasn’t considered important, the spiritual issues overshadowed everything.
This spiritual issue situation which people have that makes them unsuitable to be married or engaged with for any gainful partnership or endeavor is a situation that has bugged and puzzled me for the longest time. I once heard someone say that whenever a child gets to a point of incompetence that child is on the verge of learning something new, but I’ll go further to say that whenever an individual, both young and old, gets to a point of incompetence she/he has two choices, to turn back and stay at that place of ignorance/incompetence or move forward and acquire that knowledge or skill to become better and empowered. Relating this to spiritual issues, I believe that every spiritual problem or otherwise is an opportunity for God to show up and manifest Himself because there is nothing beyond the power of God to make right, there is nothing beyond His power to redeem and restore so when we put the spiritual label on people and set them aside what this does is put God and His power in a box and limit Him to our human understanding and abilities which makes me wonder; will their time ever come? Where and when will it be?
Someone once told me that one thing God would never choose for us is our life partner, according to him the ability we have to discover who we are, what matters to us, what our purpose on earth is and our life path is God giving us the blueprint on what the makeup of our life partner is. So I believe that the highest evidence of love and conviction that one truly belongs with her/his partner is when such situations come up and instead of the initial acceptance to end the relationship and start over with someone else, the person asks: “is it a problem God cannot deal with? Is it something she/he would suffer for a lifetime? Will prayer solve it? How can God meet us at this obstacle so my intended and/or her family can truly be free?”… I believe that some people’s salvation and deliverance depends on others, it could be through a friend who one followed to church, it could be through a cousin, an uncle, a sibling, a boss, etc. and it could come as a result of the grace and light one carries which could rub off on another’s life that would set in motion the process of deliverance and redemption for the afflicted but ultimately God’s desire is that no one stays shackled to anything negative forever.
I once had a friend who always invited me over to his family house for a visit and for a very long time my answer was no, not because I didn’t want to visit him or suspected he would harm me in any way but because I have this general fear about going to people’s houses, we were talking one day and I said that apart from work the only other place I often go to is church because that is the only place I feel safe if I’m not at home, he didn’t understand it at the time and I didn’t elaborate but I know that for everyone who goes to the house of God, it means different things to each one of us. From what I understand about fellowshipping with the brethren in the bible, it should be a gathering of people who encourage, support, learn from, edify, and share with one another; love and grace should be at the center, not only the grace from God that justifies but grace for one another that edifies, encourages and empowers, and should there ever be a time that there’s a problem that defies human understanding or ability, it should be a welcomed opportunity to invite Jesus to deliver, heal, comfort, raise and save just like He said He came to do so that we can all move forward, together. It’s not even about the people who talk of another’s spiritual issues, it’s about the undertone of finality such talk carry, like there’s no hope for the spiritually afflicted and nothing can be done for them.
I don’t have all the answers and yes my spirituality is not the same as everyone else’s but I’m truly grateful that it doesn’t have to be, I’m grateful that I get to retain my sense of humanity in my walk with God. So this is for the afflicted, God will surely meet you right where you are, it’s not a cliché, it’s a fact; but in the meantime you’ll learn to be strong, you’ll learn to be resilient, you’ll learn to have faith, you’ll learn to pray, you’ll learn to be confident in your abilities and do what you can because truly God is on your side too, and perhaps if you’re self-aware you’ll discover that your heart has grown a few inches larger than it used to be, that way when you hear about someone else’s problems you’ll be kind to them and maybe say a little prayer for them but ultimately if you stick with God you’ll find that you’ll end well.
What do you think, should we continue with “the good and perfect sticking with the good and perfect” culture we currently have or could there be another way?