Don’t Mock Me, Teach Me
How often have you heard people say, I can’t marry a woman that doesn’t know how to cook? Or I can’t be with someone that doesn’t know the difference between your and you’re? I reckon that these have led to the demise of many promising relationships.
First and foremost, I love food. Ah, food is life. In Nigeria, there is a common saying that “the best way to a man’s heart is through his stomach.” So, I do believe a woman ought to possess great culinary skills.
However, as I grow older (and wiser I hope), I have come to accept that not every woman produces magic in the kitchen and not everybody is grammar-savvy. Nobody knows it all and we all have flaws. The shortcomings of the genuises among us may come easily to those with the lowest of IQs.
As a consequence, I now realise everyone has something to teach you and what really matters is being teachable. So, the most important question ought to be is she willing to learn how to cook? Are they eager to know the difference between your and you’re?
Teachability is not something you can force on anyone; it is a choice. We choose whether to react positively or negatively to other people’s views and ideas. Jazz trumpeter Louis Armstrong once said, “There are some people that if they don’t know, you can’t teach them.”
Naturally, we abhor criticism and negative feedback. No one likes to be criticised, so we develop strong resistance and reluctance to it.
This problem is often exacerbated if one possesses any of the six things that can make people arrogant: power, fame, intelligence, affluence, talent and beauty. No matter how powerful, famous, intelligent, affluent, talented and/or beautiful we are, if we are unteachable, it will be hard or almost impossible for us to reach our full potential in our endeavours, careers or relationships.
Hence, being teachable is crucial in self-development and self-education. It is the most important skill in life. Teachability is linked to having an unquenchable thirst and deep appreciation for knowledge.
Your immediate contacts, friends and family are always willing to share their information or knowledge if you are willing to learn from them. Coaches and managers from all walks of life loves anybody that is teachable. They are often happy and eager to help anyone who is not conceited to ask questions.
So go ahead and ask questions for everyday is an opportunity to learn something new. And if someone doesn’t know what you know, try correcting/teaching them before mocking them.