The truth is everyone says and believes that being good pays and will always triumph over bad almost all the time. However, I have seen too many things that leave me wondering and questioning this general theory. I ran into an old course mate recently and that meeting triggered this rant!
You see, this ex-course mate was the typical ‘runs girl’ who was balling in school, hardly ever read and made class a no go area except for tests and exams. She was pretty and she knew it, she seemed to be enjoying her life and her circle of friends were just as hot and anywhere they went, they commanded attention. She did a lot of things that the ‘good girls’ saw as atrocities. From the surgery she had after a botched abortion to the anal stitching after Alhaji tore her ass up to the woman who came to beg, cry and rain curses on her for ruining her home.
Honestly, people were surprised she came out with her 3rd class and even graduated! Well, sugar daddy helped her with masters in the UK; she came back, got a good job, got married and from all appearances is doing pretty good with life! ‘Winning!’ right?
Now, about 3 of her friend with the same lifestyle back then are actually doing very well for themselves too. 2 are married and honestly, their husbands are legitimate business men, successful, serious gentlemen and well-travelled. I know people keep up appearances but I have to say these people look like they are having the time of their life in their marriages. I cannot lie, i had to wonder if all the ‘bedmatics’ these girls learned in school is one of the reason why these men look so happy! I mean, they must be getting the benefits of all the varieties these girls learnt from all those years of practice. It’s like having someone who makes egusi, okro, banga, white soup, Veggies, efo riro, afang in a week! That buttery talk about variety being the spice of life is on fleek while good girls are serving egusi all day of the week….*weeps*
I will not even talk of how many times ‘church’ was mentioned when I talked to one of my friend in this 2016, let us just say I had this look (O_O) through out! They are now undercover ‘good girls’!!
I was not anti-social in school so i basically got along with everyone but most of my friends were efikos (bookworms)/ religious and that kind of helped me stay grounded. These friends were not actually boring as one is made to think. They wore make up, jeans and some things that the brothers and sisters in school saw as sin. They were a bit social but just very focused. Of course, boyfriends or any kind of relationship was out of it for 4 years and I even joined them in that aspect mainly because my mom made me promise to focus on my studies. It was virgins till we married for us *I see your side eye*
My friends read hard and hardly ever played but were loyal to a fault. The only time they went to a club with me was when I deceived them that we were going for a night vigil. Thinking back now, seeing how they stood out in their cardigan and jeans…lol, maybe I should not have done that! Why am I saying all these? Well, just to give an idea of how disciplined they were.
Naturally, one got the 1. 5 CGPA and another 2.1 CGPA, departmental awards and some nice gifts at graduation. Now, first class got married after one brother deceived her with ‘just the tip’ story and got her pregnant. They are now married and are just average, nothing fantastic there as they were never really in love to start with. The other got married to a guy that seemed meek, quiet and loved her to bits! Well, after a year of beatings and infidelity right in her face, she left the union and is a clerk in some company even with her 2.1 o! SMH.
Me? Fortunately, I have a decent job, pretty comfortable and happy in my relationship but as you can tell, I was not the most ‘good girl’’ of the clique. *SIGH*.
Now, some people will say these instances are isolated but I have several, this is just one I can actually recall. I am sure people have several of these stories too; We have people who are wanted outside the country but are politicians today, people accused of credit card frauds outside this country are running big businesses in naija from the proceeds of fraud while those that left this country to get their Masters and PhDs, and all the ‘I just got back’ are working for them or have no jobs! Having an Aristo is now the new hustle and not something to be ashamed of, some people actually see you as smart if you can snag one! LOL! It is even said ‘good girls’ want the ‘bad guys’, so you see, the ‘good boy’ is not even winning!
I am not saying being ‘bad’ automatically means you will end up well and neither does being ‘good’ mean you will fail. I just sometimes feel the balance is not fair to the people trying to do things in the right and honest way. Why can’t the good win all the time like we see in the Hero Vs Villain movies that abound?
I am beginning to think the reward for being a ‘good girl’ or ‘good boy’ is in Heaven! Please tell me I’m wrong.