How Productive Are Your Conversations?

If there’s any kind of person I can’t stand, it’s the nosy type. I detest nosy people. Don’t you just hate gossips and chronic complainers? What do these have in common? They are both idle, unproductive and can even be destructive.

Just the other day, I overheard a conversation between a few colleagues who were busy being judgmental over another colleague’s sex life, as if it’s their business. They carried on their complaints about how “wild” she is, why she must slow down and all sorts. They even went as far as sharing personal advice to her, even though she was not in the room to hear their “words of wisdom”. It all became too burdensome for me to ignore. Before I could hold back, I had lashed out at them.

“Can’t you people just mind your own damn business?”

The one who was quick to act had a swift response. “What? Are you also a sex freak?”

While the others looked on, stunned by my reaction, I hissed in irritation and explained that my sex life is none of their business and neither was our colleague’s. As I got up to leave the canteen, I had a final word for them.

“Get a life guys so you have a story of your own to share rather than sitting around having foolish discussions.”

And that was that.

For those who derive pleasure in idle talk such as what my colleagues were engaging in, I wonder if you’ve considered something. It is very common that less successful people spend time that should be used productively discussing other people’s business. On the other hand, highly successful people do not take part in trash talking others behind their backs.They would rather spend their time improving themselves. If you want to be a success in any field, think again about whether you want to spend time dissecting someone else’s life.

Decide whether you want to spend time learning or gossiping. It can be difficult to break this pattern, but you will be a better person for it. The truth is that I used to be a terrible complainer. Just like my colleagues sat around discussing someone else, I could sit around all day and give you a billion reasons why one person got the result I desired but not me. Idle talk. I did this until I came to a realisation that life was passing me by and all I did was complain.

Right there and then I decided to change my life. If someone else could do something, I refused to give myself an excuse explaining why I couldn’t. Whenever I confided in someone who was also giving me reasons why someone else could achieve something and I couldn’t, I walked away from them because I realised negativity was not good for me.

Bad habits are addictive. They may be difficult to break but always worthwhile to rid ourselves of. Ridding yourself of these habits is, like the oyinbo man would say, “good riddance to bad rubbish”.

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My name is Bukunmi, I enjoy talking with my hands on http://www.bukunmisdiary.com/ and other platforms. And hope one day these fingers would tell enough stories that will inspire greatness in others.
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    straight to the point. I like it

    November 27, 2016
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    Fis

    Thank you for this. Like I can’t stand people who complain. If it sucks fix it or learn to live with it.

    November 29, 2016
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    DJ

    I’m in love with your delivery.
    Nice writ

    November 29, 2016
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