People ask me what I look for in a guy. This is my answer.
It is not enough to want be in love or want someone to be in love with you. What truly matters is what the person does to keep the love growing strong.
I want someone who does not leave me guessing about whether we are in a ‘situationship’ or a relationship.
I lack spontaneity and therefore I want spontaneity.
I do not want to be settled for; I want to be all the person ever wants. I want a person who is willing to do boring tasks with me and love every minute of it.
I want someone who will feel as much for me as he did on the day he realized he was in love with me.
I want someone who will show me off with pride to everyone around him (even though I am shy). I do not want a girlfriend label; I want it to be clear for everyone around us to see that we are in love and we are meant to be together forever. I want someone who is able to erase my doubts about marriage and someone who does not leave me wondering if he’s cheating.
I want someone who calls me first thing in the morning to tell me he has a hard-on because I was all he dreamed about during the night. I want someone who calls me during the day to tell me what is happening at work (not always though; I know how hectic some work days can be!). I want someone who calls me at night sometimes more than once because he couldn’t sleep after the first time he called and he wants my voice to be the last he hears telling him ‘I love you’. I want someone who will watch ‘He’s just not that into you’ with me and afterwards tell me ‘I am the exception to the rule, his exception’.
I know it’s not going to be all rosy but I want someone who is able to reassure me when things get rough and shaky; I want someone who wants to take me to the movies (even if I might fall asleep halfway through) just because he knows I love the ambience. I want someone whom I can cuddle with naked without sex because there are days when all I want is cuddling. I want us to have quarrels because we can’t be that perfect and also because makeup sex is the best.
I want someone who is not afraid to talk to me about his dreams because he wants me to be there when they happen. I want him to dare me to be more because he deserves me at my best. I want him to help me figure out what I want because most times I need a shove in the right direction. I want someone who wants me to watch football with him even though I am not a fan. I want someone who dares me to try new things like drinking beer or… I’ll leave the rest to your imagination. I want to be the spice of his life and I want him to be mine.
I want someone who will take me to the club at least once a month after we are married because I like dancing and loud music. I want someone who will send our kids to their grandparents just because he wants alone time with wifey. I want someone who surprises me with dinners cooked by him even if it’s just noodles. I want someone who will send me a text (even when I am right beside him) telling me how ‘hot’ I look. I want someone who will massage my back and get me warm water to drink when it’s that time of the month.
I want someone with whom I can spend forever with and if forever doesn’t happen, I want to know I spent 65 years of my life with someone who truly loved me and made me know it every single day in every way possible.
I know I have not said what I have to offer but I promise to let his spontaneity rub off on me. I promise to be an avid fan of his football club. I promise to try new things with him because someone like him deserves it. I promise not to make our life a routine. I promise to be the exact same person I want him to be and I promise above all to have eyes only for him when he gets pot-bellied and fat.
I am saying all this because I want it to be known that guys like this still exist. I am going to get one of such guys, and we will have our 65 years of bliss together, no matter how long it takes to find him.