We received two posts – both brief, both sharing a common and often overlooked theme. Sharing them side by side will hopefully show that anyone experiencing this is far from alone; as you can see below, someone else out there is likely to be going through the same thing. Reach out and you might find…
We received two posts – both brief, both sharing a common and often overlooked theme. Sharing them side by side will hopefully show that anyone experiencing this is far from alone; as you can see below, someone else out there is likely to be going through the same thing. Reach out and you might find you have more in common with others than you might think.
Behind The Smiles by Maduka Ekene
One thing about us that we usually don’t reveal on social network is ‘loneliness’. A lot of people reading this post are going through this situation in silence.
We’ve mastered the art of putting up a facade that nobody would believe how terribly lonely we truly are.
When we turn off our phones, we go into seclusion. A life with no real friends, no company, no real love. Just we and ourselves alone; yet, somehow, we try to mask this feeling by portraying the ever happy, 24/7 jovial, fun, outgoing personality backed up with carefully contrived happy moments, that only exist in our minds and heads.
Turns out that it’s usually the loneliest people who try to appeal to the world this way.
And this comes from someone who has actually been there.
To everyone going through this, I know how it feels to be all by yourself in a world where everyone is too busy & conceited to care about the next person’s existence; a world where friendship comes with a price tag.
I know how it feels to look out there and feel like you’re missing out on all the happiness, craze and fun – while you’re the odd man out. I know how it feels when you think you’re not good enough or worthy, because everyone you know has been claimed.
Hold on, you’ll survive.
Mood by OluOlu
There is a deep longing within my being for someone who can listen to my heart and understand perfectly, everything I feel. If that is love, then it means I’m looking for love. I don’t realise it until I’m lying down on my bed, lights off, music playing; a little louder than usual.
There is no playlist, I select random songs that take me to places in my heart that I don’t know exist. I feel the strong urge to talk to someone. I pick up my phone and scroll through my WhatsApp chats. I send a few ‘HI’s’, get a few responses, but the banality of the chats leave me frustrated. I want a real conversation. I open Twitter and scroll through my TL, looking for a tweet or thread that is a response to the conversation I wish I’m having. I find none.
Is this what being lonely feels like? I can call up several people. In fact, some might even show up in my house at my request, but the conversation I desire is one that is so intimate that words are not required. Just the beating of hearts in perfect silence that is completely understood.
I will just lie here and take solace in the music.
I’ll listen to ‘Lie in the Sound’ by Trespassers William or ‘Apologies by Grace Potter and the Nocturnals or ‘I Never Told You’ by Colbie Caillat or ‘Vi To Er Smeltet Sammen by Stoffer & Maskinen from the movie ‘Copenhagen’ , a song I don’t know what the heck they’re saying…
First published here.
Feel free to share your experience of loneliness and how/if you overcome it in the comments section. Again, more often than not, we are less alone than we think we are.