It is the most beautiful day of her life – the day when she is the cynosure of all eyes. She can do no wrong today.
Alluring in her custom made wedding dress from Milan, and seated majestically on her neck is a vintage pearl handpicked from the Arabian Colosseum.
The day when she formally gets to make her prince her lord. The crowd is seated, awaiting the beautiful bride. The groom draped in his bespoke Italian suit is grinning from cheek to cheek, his countenance drenched in pleasant blush as the seemingly flawless damsel arrives the venue and across the hall are gentle whispers from other guys about how beautiful she appears.
The ceremony seems to be going as expected till it gets to the point where it becomes scripted.
The officiating priest asked the couple to repeat certain lines after him. Like a politician who can’t wait to loot public treasury, they impatiently repeat whatever the clergy says with little or no time to reflect on what they are saying. Talk about due diligence. This is not a software installation where you rush to accept those lengthy terms and conditions. This is a lifetime contract whose terms barely last more than five sentences.
The central theme of the say-after-me ritual is “for better for worse, till death do us part.”
Herein lies my unease. What kind of death is being referred to? Physical, Psychological or emotional?
I understand many married people are dead emotionally. Others are dead psychologically. Unfortunately, some are dead physically.
One advantage of the previous two is that there is still a chance at rebirth. When a person dies emotionally or psychologically, she can still recover but the physical death is the finality of life. Physical death can be likened to when the writer of a person’s life drops his pen.
I must admit at this point that I am not an authority in this subject. However, in my opinion, I think any form of death should be a legally and socially acceptable basis for the termination of this admirable institution in which certificates are issued to you at the beginning.
Lest I forget, wedding vow is a man-made construct. I don’t recall anyone in the bible taking them. Then again, what do I know???
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