Last time, we asked: Is it compulsory to buy Aso Ebi or not? From the results, 58% answered : Absolutely Not. But 32% quoted Ghandi – “People dressed in Aso Ebi are served food first” – Mahatma Gandhi. One of the things Nollywood has ‘taught’ me is that if you go ahead and marry the person of…
Last time, we asked: Is it compulsory to buy Aso Ebi or not? From the results, 58% answered : Absolutely Not. But 32% quoted Ghandi – “People dressed in Aso Ebi are served food first” – Mahatma Gandhi.
One of the things Nollywood has ‘taught’ me is that if you go ahead and marry the person of your dreams without your parents’ consent, all kinds of disaster will befall your home. Society doesn’t help matters either, they make it seem like your parents’ consent/blessings supersedes that from God. Yes I know what the bible says about honouring your father and your mother but please work with me here.
Now there are lots of reasons why parents may not consent to a marriage; some are actually reasonable while others are downright ridiculous. A friend of mine once told me about her cousin who is facing this “consent issue” if I can call it that. Her wealthy parents told her that her boyfriend is not rich enough to marry her. They want someone with social relevance. Someone who can afford a “one-in-town” type of wedding ceremony complete with honeymoon in exotic places like the Maldives, Bora Bora etc etc. The girl is madly in love with her federal government worker boyfriend and is seriously dismayed. Some people interpreted the parents’ actions as being protective and just worried about her welfare but I think its just atrocious. Don’t get me wrong, sometimes our parents see things our virgin eyes can’t see (no, this is not a line from a Nollywood movie) but at the end of the day, it’s your life not theirs.
Some other reasons why parents may not bless a union include: blood issues (genotype etc), religion, tribe etc. I heard the most ridiculous reason recently; Some guy’s parents told him people from the village of his girlfriend have fertility problems. Fair enough, if you roll like that. But what made it even more ridiculous was the fact that the guy and his girlfriend both came from the same tribe. I don’t even understand. It’s common knowledge that your parents are like God’s representatives on earth put here to guide and direct their children and therefore they should be accorded the respect they deserve. But on the flip side, when it comes to marriage, most parents really just take the piss. Even if I have all the money in the world doesn’t mean I must have a large wedding just because my parents want one. Or because they can’t deal with people from other tribes doesn’t mean I can’t. The same Nollywood I started with has taught us that sometimes, parents can be the reason behind their children’s lack of progress so why then can’t you damn them if they are being unreasonable after all white people do it all the time and even more interesting is the fact that orphans get married? What do you think?