Hey guys! TGIF!! Last time we asked: Are you genuinely friends with your ex(s) who broke up with you? 35% voted: “we are civil”. Y’all are so matured and all – so proud of you guys -__-.
There is always that guy you meet that is almost perfect and who has qualities that are exactly what you want in a future partner. The relationship is going great, friends say you guys look so good together. You are sexually and genetically compatible. You have met each others’ parents and you both have great jobs. He loves you and never ceases to show you how crazy he is about you.The only glitch is that this dude has turned a blind eye and deaf ear to anything marriage related. The fact that you both have closets filled with different bridesmaids dresses and groomsmen suits doesn’t mean anything to him. The deafening alarm sound from your biological clock is not even enough to rearrange his brain into doing the needful. You then decide to take matters into your own hands and go off the pill.
There is always that one guy that you meet that you fall hopelessly in love with. He is perfect by all your standards and you can’t imagine spending the rest of your life with anyone else. Problem is, he has too many character flaws. He cheats and lies a lot. But your heart has refused to acknowledge all that. Friends and even family think he is wrong for you but you are adamant about not ending the relationship because you are in love. You decide to take matters into your own hands. A child will definitely change him, he will be more responsible and he will treat you with so much respect as the mother of his child. He will eventually marry you. You proceed to set the plan in motion.
On today’s poll, I want to know, can you use pregnancy as bait to get a man to marry you? And guys, will you marry your girlfriend because she got pregnant with your child even if you are not ready? At first thought, most people will scream manipulation, lies and deceit but looking at the situation closely, is it always manipulation?? Sometimes, a guy just needs that push to take that plunge. Yes it might be the worst way to go about it as the plan might back fire but it isn’t really fair to label it manipulation all the time. I mean, the sex that eventually led to the pregnancy was by two people and it shouldn’t always be the responsibility of a woman to play safe. If the guy is hell bent on not having children, he should have tied a frog to his Ghaddaffi right? My point is, it should not always be seen as an act of manipulation. Sometimes, a woman just tends to be more proactive in her actions. Let’s face it, the fertility of a woman that desires children reduces as she grows older and it really isn’t fair to see all that semen wasting when it can be put into good use.
Don’t get me wrong, I am in no way encouraging this but there’s no harm in analyzing from the woman’s point of view. Personally, I won’t advise it because more often that not, it ends up bad and makes worse an already messed up situation. That’s my opinion though. What is yours?