The Naked Convos

Sadly, We Can’t Save Everyone

I like to think that it is part of the human condition to have concern for each other. Right?  Of course if you look around you, this premise is always on trial. And I’m not trying to say that the world is a place where all people are treated with equal respect and kindness. But for the most part, people do care about others even if those others are often limited to their family, close friends, and significant other. We love these people, we want them to be happy, and we want to save them.

Sometimes our loved ones need help, and it’s easy to give help when the matter is concrete; it is easy to help when people are in need of something tangible. But it’s not easy when people need something truly important. When they need things that are immaterial, giving them what they need becomes difficult. Sometimes people need to leave a bad situation, they need to heal from brokenness, they need to stop doing things or living a life that harms them, and sometimes they just need to know for sure that they are loved and that there is hope and happiness available to them.

When we love people, when we truly love them, we want to give them a lot; we want to give them everything we have. But when there is an impermeable brokenness that is inside the person that we love, what we give may never seem to be enough. It doesn’t seem to heal them. We try to get them to see what we see and we try to mend their wounds. We try and try and we fail because as long as they don’t get it, as long as they don’t make a choice to accept our love, and to know self-love, they continue to be broken and unable to move past that brokenness.

All of us are human and we are all broken in some way or another. Indeed the world is full of brokenness — that is simply a fact of life. We hurt each other so much with our words and actions and inaction, and of course we hurt ourselves. But some of us learn to deal with this reality of life, we learn to fight through our brokenness — to be beautiful despite it and to be beautiful because of it. We learn somehow through all the difficulties that we face, to save ourselves. And we try to save those around us.

But have you ever tried to save someone? Perhaps you tried to love them with every fiber of your being so that they would know that they are wonderful in every way. Perhaps you made a fool out of yourself to let someone know how special and unique they are inside and out. Maybe you’ve emptied your emotions hoping that they would understand how badly you want to see them do better than they’re doing at present. But eventually you learn that you just can’t save anyone no matter how hard you try. People have to want to change, they have to want to do better, and to be better. All you can do is love people and pray for them and be present when they need you. But you can’t save them; at the end of the day, we all have to save ourselves.

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  • “…But you can’t save them; at the end of the day, we all have to save ourselves.”

    If I ever read anything more true..

    August 28, 2016
  • This is so true. It’s just difficult sometimes. You see a loved one doing something and you just want them to realise that it isn’t the best for them, and it breaks your heart to see them keep on doing it.
    I have come to realise that i have to trust my loved ones. I have made mistakes and learnt from them. And they will too. I can only let them know whats right, but I can’t force them. At the end of the day, as a loved one, you just have to be there for them when they decide to save themselves. Because like you said, we all have to save ourselves.
    August 28, 2016
  • Osasu Elaiho
    Have you ever loved someone so much that you’re willing to do anything for them just to see them smile and take that pain away?

    Have you ever seen someone in so much pain yet not be willing to listen to your words and yet blame you for walking away?

    Have you ever been torn up inside when you have to walk away from a person and love them from afar when you realise they seem averse to change and are only bringing you down?

    This strikes a nerve. It’s so hard to walk away sometimes but in the end, you can’t save someone who doesn’t want to be saved.

    August 28, 2016
  • U
    True that you can’t save anyone but they to save themselves.

    The frustrating aspect of assisting is when the needy has no good idea or plan of what he/she wants to do. ” I want to go abroad” or “I want to do the same business John does”. When you ask for plans or steps in achieving this or details of that business, you meet a stare. All that’s wanted is to be like , his friend, John who probably has “made it”.

    No one will ever tell you how he “made it”. All that said are generalities. Based on this you are requested to fund an utopia which you clearly know leads no where reasonable. Then you become an “enemy” because you refused to throw your money down the drain only to be approached 2-3 years later by the same person for more assistance. Not gonna happen

    August 28, 2016
  • Ijehappinex
    Sometimes, as it seems we try to make people become like you. I have learnt not to love the perfect(cos there is actually no perfect)…Just the picture of SOMEONE without flaws……………….. we are so focused on the best/making sure the people we love get nothing short of the best in life. The way that makes us feel satisfied with them and most importantly ourself. So, in the process of trying to help out; they end up rebellious, worst than they were before… it still boils than to the fact that ‘one needs to save thyself even before attempting to save others’.
    August 29, 2016
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