Score: Anything Could Happen (Piano Cover) || Gavin Mikhail After reading the much talked about ‘There are Single Women who Don’t Have A Little Sex On The Side’ article, I had an interesting conversation with a few members of this community on social media. At that time, I hadn’t gone through the comments on the article…
Score: Anything Could Happen (Piano Cover) || Gavin Mikhail
After reading the much talked about ‘There are Single Women who Don’t Have A Little Sex On The Side’ article, I had an interesting conversation with a few members of this community on social media. At that time, I hadn’t gone through the comments on the article but when I did, coupled with the conversation earlier, I had somethings on my mind…
I remember a conversation I had with a friend a while back. She’s the head of the youth and was feeling apprehensive about the coming Sunday because that Friday, a couple of her church members had seen her clubbing. I remember not knowing what advice/answer to give her so I asked HS for help. I asked her “why are you worried about what they think? Do you live for them or for Him?”. I reminded her of the story of the adulterous woman who the zealots wanted to stone to death (because that was the penalty for her crime) so they brought her to Christ and he told them that he had no problem with that but the person without any sin should hurl the first stone.
When the crowd dispersed, Christ didn’t judge her or stone her himself, rather he accepted her warmly and told her to sin no more. A lot of prejudices some Christians have worry me. Is it Christ-like to have prejudices? To judge? What right do you have to hold yourself on a higher pedestal and look down on people who don’t share the same beliefs as you or who say they do but don’t live accordingly? When it comes down to it, the world might be black and white but in the journey to white (perfection), there are billion shades of grey. It’s in these shades that we all live in and I think Christians need to realize this before turning up their nose in judgement; my Christianity is not between you and I but between me and my God.
I can’t stand beer but I love the warm feeling good wine gives me and the burning sensation I get from doing shots; hell, most weekends I lace most of my drinks with vodka and I’ve recently fallen in like with palm wine.
I’ve never done hard drugs or syrups but I have no problem with greens. I’m not addicted but I do like the high weed gives.
Sometimes when I go to a mall, I “test their security” by sneaking out a chocolate bar or two and later, I feel guilty because I just gave an excuse for stealing and Christians shouldn’t do that so I go back, buy something else and make sure the change covers for what I’d earlier taken and leave the counter before the cashier gives my change.
By His grace, I don’t fib but sometimes I still find out that I might as well still do because I don’t always give my honest opinion because I think “it’s too harsh” or “it’d hurt” so I don’t tell the whole truth. It’s not a lie but it’s not being honest either.
I’m blessed by Lecrae, Trip Lee, Detrick Haddon, Hillsong, Bethel and other gospel artists but I still love singing Rihanna’s “California King Bed” or Lil Wayne’s & Eminiem’s “No Love” at the top of my voice when I’m in the shower and I listen to Trey Songz, Kodaline, Michael Buble and others at least 5 days a week. I even go looking for new ‘secular’ artistes everyday (thank you, Spotify and iTunes).
I am not a virgin. I haven’t been since I was 18. I love the whole art of sex, from lovemaking to a good ol’ rump in the sack without any finesse, I love it. Forget nutting, I love being done with a woman and knowing for sure that she’s never going to forget me or the heights I took her to. .
According to some, what all these make me is an alcoholic, an igbo smoker, a thief, a fornicator (who’s even more devilish because of the slight twinge of BDSM) who listens to secular music and maybe they are right, maybe I am all these things. But as far as I’m concerned, I’m also a Christian.
And He still loves me.
When I wake every morning, I know He does and no matter how early/late I am, I literally say “Hey, good morning Lord. Thank you for today”. He knows I’m not perfect and all He asks is that I keep on trying and each day, He gives me the grace to be better, to do better, to live a life that would draw people to Him and so I do my best not to let Him down by being the best version of me; I call my friends and we talk about stuff, we pray with and for each other, I make sure I make someone I don’t know smile by smiling genuinely at them and telling them they are beautiful or to have an amazing day and to the people I see everyday at work, I try too. They can drive a brother crazy atimes but I try because a smile might be the first aid someone might just need to give them the strength they need.
On Sunday, I would go to church and worship Him because His love defies all human explanation. I worship from my heart and smile because I remember that just the day before, I promised Him that if he didn’t let the splitting hangover I had kill me, I’d never take alcohol again. I smile as I worship because I know He smiled as I made that promise, knowing that I’d make the same promise again next week but He Healed me all the same because all He requires of me is for me to try and next week, He’d heal me from the hangover again if He has to because He knows that it’s a step by step journey and some steps are more difficult for others and stumbling isn’t a problem as long as I get back up and keep at it. So He loves me still and encourages, not condemns, me.
I’m not using this article to defend anything or justify my choices. I just want to remind us that there’s a reason why Jesus was received more than the Pharisees and Sadducees ever were. He didn’t condemn people but He told them without any prejudice but lovingly, how they were expected to live and showed them too and celebrated with those who listened and prayed for those who didn’t. So rather than look down on those you think are “rotting with the world” and judge them for doing the things they do, why not drop the constant barbs at them take a leaf from Christ’s book?
In my opinion, your life, not your words of condemnation, is your testimony to others.