Some time ago, I ran into my Ex, Chinelo and her bestie, Nkeoma at the movies. I had gone to watch Total Recall, the new blockbuster starring the multi-talented Colin Farrell but I was told it was yet to hit the cinema so I had to settle for ‘Think like a Man’ for the umpteenth time. I never get tired of seeing that movie though.
Chinelo and I broke up almost two years ago because the fights kept getting worse. When a woman is fed up in a relationship, you know. She starts bringing up old dirt and gets agitated at the slightest provocation so I took the hint and ended the relationship amicably for both parties to be happy. Although we claimed we were still friends, we lost contact and hadn’t seen or talked to each other for 18 months.
She looked like a bag of money: sassy, beautiful and enchanting. Chinelo has always been a nymphet; she is worth more than a second look. At a glance, I was bewildered by her pliant lips and curvaceous body. It brought to mind all the good times we had – the mind-blowing sex, the incredible adventures and the crazy games we played.
We saw the movie together – though we talked throughout the length of the movie. At the end of the day, we exchanged numbers and other relevant information and set up a date in the near future – that’s where all the temptation started!
We hooked up again last Friday, had a drink or two and went back to my place for some sexual eruptions. We couldn’t resist each other; to make it worse, the sex was better than before; it was as if we were never apart. After the first round, my iTunes randomly selected Lil Bit’s joint with Yung Joc and Jim Jones “Sex with my Ex” from my music library. A line in the song goes: “…can’t believe I’m having sex with my ex” and post coital tristesse set in. We vowed never to do such again but after some minutes, we were at it again.
We wanted each other so bad but there was an obstacle – we had new relationships. In order to save our present relationships, we had to stay away from each other.
Often times, I hear people blabbering about their exes and it makes me laugh all the time. It’s a very common scene on Twitter; people diss their exes every 10 minutes or so. Some of these people may have gone back to their ex for sex, care or help at least once in the past but here they are, raking over coals and cursing them on Twitter. Anyways, Nigerians are known for their hypocritical ways.
I keep asking myself why we repeatedly feel affection when we see our exes. I don’t get it; if we still feel something for each other, why then did we break up in the first place? For me (and several others), it seems like it takes courage, self control and GOD to resist the sexual advances of an ex.
There’s an old proverb that says: “Insanity is doing the same thing in the same way & expecting a different outcome.” Some often get bemused after these run-ins with their exes and find themselves craving reconciliation. The fact remains just because you had awesome sex with him/her doesn’t mean when you leave your present partner, that things will be as cosy as you want/expect/dream. Returning to an old flame is like reading a book over and over again expecting a different twist in the end.
At least, that’s what I think. Do you guys agree? Have you had any reason to return to an ex? If so, was it temporary or did it last the second or third time around? If you’ve managed to avoid such reunions, how do you manage the temptation? Let’s talk it in the comment section.