Editor’s note: Apologies for the break in transmission. Body Count 101 will be back on your screens next week. However, in the same vein, here’s another take on no longer beating around the bush (pun? yes? no?) and embracing the erotic. S would be proud. ___ Why is it wrong for a man to want only…
Editor’s note: Apologies for the break in transmission. Body Count 101 will be back on your screens next week. However, in the same vein, here’s another take on no longer beating around the bush (pun? yes? no?) and embracing the erotic. S would be proud.
Why is it wrong for a man to want only sex, or be sexually attracted to a woman only and tell her? You hear reactions like ‘what do u take me for? ‘So all you want from me is just sex? Or ‘I’m not that type of girl’. In a bid to live according to the rules set for us by society and fulfill all righteousness, we deny ourselves things that we really want just to live by books not written by us. Sad!
In my opinion, over 50% of relationships in Nigeria especially those among youths within the ages of 19-35 are fueled and driven by sex. Yet wanting just sex or talking about it is a taboo… How hypocritical! Most relationships won’t even exist or survive without sex, that’s the ONLY thing those relationships are built on. Just like that popular hymn that says ‘…On the solid rock I stand’, sex is the solid rock these relationships stand!
Ladies, let’s try something practical. Have a discussion with your men and tell them you don’t want sex anymore. Tell them you want to work on strengthening the relationship without sex and let’s find out how many of you would still have a relationship at the end of that discussion.
It’s simple. Sex is the reason why most people are in a relationship. Most men hide under the pretence of ‘I want to date you’ because they know that’s the only way they can get free, drama-less sex without the 99 questions of ‘so what are we now’. They keep stringing their partners along, using relationship as a decoy and getting laid every other day. The women stay lying to themselves that they are in a ‘relationship’ whereas they in a ‘sexationship’. Ladies, if a man says he is attracted to you sexually and wants just sex, don’t get offended and start bombarding him with lectures. Respect his honesty. We need to create an atmosphere that encourages men to tell us the truth and stop putting unnecessary and unhealthy ‘relationship pressure’ on men.
Ladies, all that ‘what-would-my-friends-say-when-they-find-out-we-are-not-dating-but-we-are-having-sex’ crap has to end. Would you rather be with a man that is lying to you all in a bid to have sex or a man that is open about what he wants? Being in a relationship with a man is not a life time achievement. There are other relationships that need to be pursued. Maybe if the society placed emphasis on other things as much it does on women being in a relationship or marriage, women would strive to get serious with other things and not just MEN.
How about you get serious with your career, your education, your skin or your hair? All these other things need attention too, right?