Also a man that would be bothered by such a non-issue imo, is a man that is not self assured and that is definitely not the man I want to be married to. If me not having the same name with you makes you feel less of a husband to me or gets you worried about how much of a man society would think you are, God forbid that I get married to you!
I remember the old man had a limp and his shoulders were always slumped, some claim it was as a result of the sacks of yam he carried whilst he was young, but even with slumped shoulders his head was always raised. He was a proud man. I remember his pride and no nonsense ways, I remember he talked like he owned the world, well in a way, I guess he did.
She laid lifeless. She was tired. He patted her legs and made a move to have sex with her. ‘Please, don’t do this. Please! You are violating me.’ She cried out. The tears ran freely, soaking her pillow. Her heart was broken. How could he do this to her, she thought
Ikeja brought back your mojo. The transformation of Opebi, where your office is located, from an idyllic cosmopolis at daytime to a sprawling red light zone at night intrigued you. You registered at one of the high profile strip joints on there so you never have to hustle nor sit in the popular side like everyone else.
What I have a problem with is, when ‘the man is the head of the family’ springs up, it is usually said to tell the wife to condone whatever she is getting from the husband especially when she isn’t comfortable with it. The phrase becomes a justification for abuse. A man can cheat, dope, steal your money, be irresponsible as a husband and as a father, he is still the head of the family…
When you are in love you never! You never dare to ask important questions. He gave me directives on how to get to his mansion. He treated me like gold. I couldn’t help but helplessly fall in love with him.
What drained me the most were the numerous things I had to do as “senior single ladies” (27yrs -37yrs according to some mothers in Nigeria) in church. The prophetic bridal dances or prophetic objects we had to carry/touch and relate to real world.
This mindset of “my husband will take care of me” is what has held some women back from being all that they can. They do not strive for top jobs or try to make smart investments because they are waiting for a man to take care of them.
When a wife posts a video of her husband’s dirty habits online, questions come up, not just of the man’s horrible hygiene, but also of the woman’s discretion in publishing his worst flaws online? What does this mean for their marriage? Is she right to post the video? And what are the deal-breakers in marriages that do not fall under the “for better for worse” vow?
We pamper our men in every way. We sort out their clothes in the morning, all laid out before they wake up. All they have to do is stand up, have their bath and get dressed. Please note that the wife is also a working mother, who needs to get the kids ready before the nanny comes, pack their lunchbox, and get herself ready for work to ensure she clocks in before 8am.
Between age 25 and 30, society decides women are no longer to be sheltered and should immediately find men and marry them. To miss this time window is to be ready for a life of singleness. But is there any truth to this?
What is it about revenge that feels so good? What goes on in a woman’s mind when she’s rejected or mistreated by a man that she loves dearly? What kinds of things can a scorned woman do to the guy in question? When does love turn to hate?
Nigerians have stock reactions and responses to people based on how they are perceived. “Oga dey give you money na” is one of such reactions to women when they are buying goods and services. This is about such comments and other repulsive ones Nigerian need to put an end to.