Tag: Relationships

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(Especially in your early 20s…) Disclaimer: This is a THEORY I have, which I just recently formulated, so take what you want from it… or not. So I imagine you guys already know that I’m a love/relationship junkie, and one of my favorite things to do is wonder and “research” about related issues and topics…

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“Dele…Dele…Oladele?” Supo called. The brows on his forehead furrowed as he looked at her with exasperation. “Yes?” Oladele jerked out of her reverie. She hadn’t realized she had been staring into space for the past five minutes. Supo sighed. He held her hand tighter. Dele winced at the pain of his grip; he had been…

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Prayer is not a bad thing at all. Even the Bible affirms that in everything we should give thanks, bad or good. Feeling ashamed that your partner has started doing bad things which may endanger you and the entire family will not help the situation but speaking will. Yes, you have prayed about it for…

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I was sitting in the house the other day thinking of a good friend of mine who sent her husband to the market to buy a cabbage on a Saturday afternoon. The thing that made me laugh was that the husband left and came back the next morning with the cabbage. You might wonder what…

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So, “sex without feelings” is this new skill that all the cool kids have acquired. We used to think it was impossible but with the right tactics and soft skills, it can actually be achieved. I threw the issue to a couple of my friends and my experts are divided in their thoughts. Some say,…

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Jan 14

I Cheated

“Let us begin to deal with people in accordance to their fuck up and not on how much good we have ascribed to them on the basis of their gender alone”. I wrote this in my notes a while ago and it resonated with me. As unusual as the quote above may seem, I’m basically…

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I was chatting with a friend a short while ago, and our conversation reminded me of something that my brother mentioned to me on one of those horrible trips to the market. Yes, I hate the market even though I used to tend my mother’s shop (more like stall). The noise, the smells… Urgh. Just…

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I was staring at my screen for the umpteenth time in over 21 days, desperately trying to overcome the block that held me in its vice tighter than a woman in labour grips the hand holding her so I went on Twitter to tweet pictures of food I have/would cook see if I would stumble…

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{DISCLAIMER: This post is aimed at the men but women would might be able to learn a thing a two to pass across. No knowledge is wasted, right?} The need to remind people about orgasms is always at the tip of my tongue. I recently had a conversation with a friend who is almost thirty-two,…

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This is not a defensive piece. It’s not an attempt at milking the “not ALL men are scum” card. It’s definitely not a response to S’ article. What it is, however, is a chance to speak, alongside the voices of all the ‘unscummy’ men out there who cannot declare that they are immune to the…

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I had a long conversation with a younger friend recently about this topic. She has been involved with a guy who is my age mate for six months now and she feels like she has no direction where they are headed. So, she asks me, “Amyn, what do you think, are we boyfriend and girlfriend?”…

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“If I ever got around to having a wedding, I want this one.” That was my immediate thought. From my vantage spot, I could see that the guests present numbered less than one hundred and seemed to only include young people. I was already salivating at the dancing that would ensue at the end of…

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You meet a charming young man and it feels like the place to be. You are both crazy about each other and looking forward to your journey together hoping for the best. You go out of your way to make your partner feel comfortable and welcome. You stay positive in bad and good times. You…