Tag: Women

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When a man says a female who willfully puts herself in a compromising position may get molested, most females are quick to label such men potential rapists. Such blind conclusions baffle me. Just because a man has no right to touch a female who’s practically naked doesn’t make it okay for her to send the…

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Somewhere in Nigeria, a girl will be pinned down and a part of her flesh will be cut off, while she is conscious, in pain and wailing. This would be done to her by older women who have likely gone through the same process, they would claim it is for her own good, it would…

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Good morning to all the brothers who know how to slay in the kitchen! I’ve always been an excellent cook. Proudly! Mum taught me well and I grabbed. Market trips is nothing new; I’ve been doing that since I was a boy. It’s the reason why I can’t be cheated by traders; I’ve learnt the…

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“We need to work on this, work on our marriage” He heard her say as he tucked his children in bed, pulling the covers over their small bodies. He remained silent… He had nothing to say. “James, are you even listening?” she asked strictly, in a tone of voice that usually made his back straighten,…

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I became aware of Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie’s interview on U.K.’s Channel 4 News on my Twitter feed over the weekend. Promoting her new book, Dear Ijeawele, or A Feminist Manifesto in Fifteen Suggestions, Adichie commented on gender identity, specifically about trans women. “When people talk about “Are trans women women?” my feeling is trans women are trans women.”…

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I was sitting in the house the other day thinking of a good friend of mine who sent her husband to the market to buy a cabbage on a Saturday afternoon. The thing that made me laugh was that the husband left and came back the next morning with the cabbage. You might wonder what…

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This is not a defensive piece. It’s not an attempt at milking the “not ALL men are scum” card. It’s definitely not a response to S’ article. What it is, however, is a chance to speak, alongside the voices of all the ‘unscummy’ men out there who cannot declare that they are immune to the…

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I was going through my TNC dashboard one early morning when I saw one of those banner ads at the top of the screen. It read ‘Find a foreign husband’. L’aaaro kutu kutu!  It’s not the first time I’ve seen a banner ad claiming to foster relationships, or talking about a dating site on this…

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  Did you retweet the video clip of the Ms Anambra saga? What about the Slut-Shaming [email protected] Facebook? If you did, then you just took part in revenge porn, mob action and an unhealthy dose of slut-shaming. It’s that simple. Simply put, slut-shaming is the idea of shaming and/or attacking a woman or a girl for being sexual,…

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This piece actually applies to ALL girls. You, you, you, and you. Oh, I didn’t forget you too! I know how you feel looking in the mirror, poking the little hairs on your tummy, the weird lumps of fat on your thighs, the stretchmarks on your hips. You look at yourself and you think, “This…

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Ever heard of Slut-Shaming? Yes? No? It is such a common behaviour pattern in Nigeria but we are yet to grasp the seriousness of this act and its impact on the mental health and well-being of the women concerned. Melania Trump, has steered up a hornet’s nest of vipers and pytons with racy pictures that have surfaced online,…

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I had a long conversation with a younger friend recently about this topic. She has been involved with a guy who is my age mate for six months now and she feels like she has no direction where they are headed. So, she asks me, “Amyn, what do you think, are we boyfriend and girlfriend?”…

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DISCLAIMER: If you don’t own a vagina, this article might be useless to you, but a wise man would read on and pass it to a female in his life to help. Reaching an orgasm can be difficult, climaxing is a natural thing when you’re making love or, you know, taking care of business yourself…