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First of all, my breasts are huge. None of my regular bras can quite capture them in their entirety anymore, and the discerning observer can notice this struggle going on underneath my top. There’s that annoying side boob spillage plus the bra lines are clearly marked now no matter what I’m wearing.

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Human sexuality has always been an interesting part of our existence. In recent times, it has become a norm to hear young Nigerian men and women declare their sexuality as sapiosexual—attracted to or sexually aroused by intelligence and its use. When critically analysed, however, are we really sapiosexual? According to a friend, most Nigerian men aren’t…

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Sometimes words are just noise. Long rambling diatribes often lose their potency when an audience is not given a point of focus, sometimes a beautiful face or a scenic backdrop or the skill of the person delivering the words. But sometimes in film, less is more. Audiences don’t need to be motivated by bright costumes…

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About Three weeks ago, I read Mona Elthahawy’s chilling book, – ‘Headscarves and Hymens’. It’s an expose of the status and realities of Arab women in their own homelands, chronicling how a mix of culture and religion has, for donkey years succeeded in firmly entrenching women as second class citizens. I’d recommend the book to…

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When a man says a female who willfully puts herself in a compromising position may get molested, most females are quick to label such men potential rapists. Such blind conclusions baffle me. Just because a man has no right to touch a female who’s practically naked doesn’t make it okay for her to send the…

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Somewhere in Nigeria, a girl will be pinned down and a part of her flesh will be cut off, while she is conscious, in pain and wailing. This would be done to her by older women who have likely gone through the same process, they would claim it is for her own good, it would…

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Good morning to all the brothers who know how to slay in the kitchen! I’ve always been an excellent cook. Proudly! Mum taught me well and I grabbed. Market trips is nothing new; I’ve been doing that since I was a boy. It’s the reason why I can’t be cheated by traders; I’ve learnt the…

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“We need to work on this, work on our marriage” He heard her say as he tucked his children in bed, pulling the covers over their small bodies. He remained silent… He had nothing to say. “James, are you even listening?” she asked strictly, in a tone of voice that usually made his back straighten,…

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I became aware of Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie’s interview on U.K.’s Channel 4 News on my Twitter feed over the weekend. Promoting her new book, Dear Ijeawele, or A Feminist Manifesto in Fifteen Suggestions, Adichie commented on gender identity, specifically about trans women. “When people talk about “Are trans women women?” my feeling is trans women are trans women.”…

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I was sitting in the house the other day thinking of a good friend of mine who sent her husband to the market to buy a cabbage on a Saturday afternoon. The thing that made me laugh was that the husband left and came back the next morning with the cabbage. You might wonder what…

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This is not a defensive piece. It’s not an attempt at milking the “not ALL men are scum” card. It’s definitely not a response to S’ article. What it is, however, is a chance to speak, alongside the voices of all the ‘unscummy’ men out there who cannot declare that they are immune to the…

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I was going through my TNC dashboard one early morning when I saw one of those banner ads at the top of the screen. It read ‘Find a foreign husband’. L’aaaro kutu kutu!  It’s not the first time I’ve seen a banner ad claiming to foster relationships, or talking about a dating site on this…

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  Did you retweet the video clip of the Ms Anambra saga? What about the Slut-Shaming of @AfikpoChic on Facebook? If you did, then you just took part in revenge porn, mob action and an unhealthy dose of slut-shaming. It’s that simple. Simply put, slut-shaming is the idea of shaming and/or attacking a woman or a girl for being sexual,…