The Introvert

Some people are not just the type to walk into a place, greet everybody from A-Z, start chit chatting and familiarising with every stranger in the building, all in the name of being social. I’m this way, and it’s the only way I know how to be.

Don’t count on me to be that friend you’ll hang out with and have fun talking endlessly. I no sabi. I’m most comfortable when I’m on my own, inside my shell. Those who know me know this already.

To be honest, I envy folks who can easily mingle & warm up to people wherever they find themselves, without trying so hard. Despite how hard I try to be like them, it doesn’t work for me. Each time I try to be that jolly, jovial person in real life, an internal struggle takes place within me urging me to shut up. I feel stupid inside because what i intend portraying before them comes off as fake and forceful to me.

Worse still, I’m not too good with smiles. My face has always been as hard and contorted as Zuma rock, which kinda made a lot of people perceive me as one who’s unapproachable.

I’m odd, I know. Thank you.

Did I bag names for being different? Yes! A lot of them all the way from high school. People mistook my nature for being proud, mean, snobbish, unfriendly; but they don’t know it ain’t so, sincerely.

I used to think I had a major character flaw because I’m not outgoing, but I don’t think so anymore. I don’t need to be ‘extra’ to be normal. What makes me comfortable is who I am.
If we simply have a healthy relationship, I’m good!

Understand people. The world would be a better place if people stopped trying to make an introvert become an extrovert. It’s akin to taking a fish out of water. Leave them alone. They have the most fun in their solitude.

  • Sam Sam

    The earlier we let people be true to themselves the better. Some parents try to change left handed children to be right handed by force and it is wrong.

    May 16, 2017
    • Bismark Ekenedilichukwu Benson

      Truer words have not been spoken.

      May 17, 2017
  • Samantha

    This is so me. Some people don’t just get it and would want to be all up in your space. #sigh

    May 17, 2017
  • Mr. Smith

    Typical Smith wahala!!! I’m an introvert + a loner, I’ve always been. it’s not something I try to do, its just natural to me. I so hate it when people be like ‘why are u so quiet/gentle? I think that’s the dumbest question ever. I don’t have to be loud to be normal

    May 17, 2017
  • Reemah

    I’m an ambivert. I do it all. …as the mood dictates.

    May 18, 2017
  • Can we just have an Introverts Club here on TNC? Though I wonder what we’d be doing on there, but at least, we’ll all understand one another.

    May 18, 2017
  • ify

    Still working on embracing the fact that I’m an introvert and not treating it like some great character flaw. Hopefully I’ll be able to achieve what you’ve been able to soon. I hate the fact that I come across as some proud unfriendly person when half the time I’m just trying to figure out what to say and do without embarrassing myself.

    May 23, 2017
  • Toby

    Babe, I don’t know what the bleep i am, alls i know is that most times i want to chill alone without clothes while i binge on TV, while other times i want to dance crazy with random people i just met and i am vibing with.
    Essentially do what you want and be who you are.
    Just don’t close yourself off to people, experiences and situations simply because you think your personality dictates that (not talking specifically to you). Always remember, those weird times that friend dragged you out of your comfort zone and made you do weird ish as you observed even weirder people make for fantastic fodder on your blog posts.

    Now go out there and be You!!!

    May 24, 2017
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