When Life Gives You Lemons

It’s that awkward moment when you’re done with university but NYSC hasn’t started as your school hasn’t yet cleared you for some reason or the other. Or maybe you’re still in uni but there’s a 1 year strike. You might have even done your NYSC and you’re waiting for your job to start. Or maybe you got to work one day and found out you’ve been asked to resign.Your parents might have experienced a misfortune so your school fees can’t be paid. Or you just realised that your school isn’t accredited so you have to change courses and start from scratch again. They haven’t paid your salary at work for 6 months and your wife is getting frustrated.

What do you do when life throws these unexpected curve balls. When one day you’ve got a job and the next day you’re unemployed. When you haven’t planned for this break in transmission but you have to learn to deal with it. When it seems like your efforts have been in vain and your luck always seems to be the worst.

You might think that these kind of tales are far and in between but there are many worse scenarios which have happened before, are happening now or will happen in the future.

First things first, it’s not easy, frustration will set in and often times depression too. You will doubt yourself, your self esteem will plummet, you might even have suicidal thoughts. You will have mood swings, you will consider settling for any job even when the pay is less than what you are used to and the job description doesn’t align with your strengths and interests. The questions will keep coming in and you will undoubtedly start to compare yourself to others.

Some words of advice for you during this trying time. Stay focused, develop your skills, grow your network, don’t undermine certain events, you never know you might meet. Search within to discover what exactly it is you want for your life, mind map, set goals. Trust God, listen to uplifting and encouraging songs like my first single Trust. Watch videos and read books of people who have made it in life despite being faced with numerous challenges.

Change your mindset, Change your mentality, Change your thinking. I’m sure there is a problem you were created to solve, Find it!

P.S.: When you finally get back on your feet, make sure you develop a savings and investment culture and diversify your assets so that you are prepared if and when another curveball lands.

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  • LOL. “listen to uplifting and encouraging songs like my first single Trust” Nice marketing right there

    May 18, 2015
    • Jo!

      lol. As in!
      I like the way this babe plugs herself at every opportunity she gets

      May 18, 2015
      • thetoolsman

        lol (3 comments in a row starting with lol by the way)… Looking past the plug, the post actually does make some good points.

        May 18, 2015
      • Tuke

        Lool, it’s necessary o 🙂

        May 18, 2015
  • Back in the days, we were basically engineered to lounge aimlessly when for example, there’s a one year strike from school. When I remember all the times spent during said strikes doing nothing I shudder! Imagine all the productive things that could have been achieved at those enforced holidays! These days tho, ppl are getting more adventurous!
    Anyways, I totally agree with this. Life shouldn’t even just be about using your lemons to make a drink! Bake, cook, hell become a juggler with said lemons!

    May 18, 2015
  • Tunde O


    May 18, 2015

    I liked this post, very well said

    May 20, 2015
  • Nice post Adetuke Morgan, I think the strike issue remains the most difficult to experience because you will spend additional years in school because of it in some cases.

    May 21, 2015
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