For the longest time, I have been fascinated by calling a man who gives a great fuck ‘daddy’. It works remarkably well as an incentive for men, well – some men- to put their back into giving a well deserved orgasm (or several).
The thing is, lovers (whether emotionally involved or simply just smashing each others brains out) give each other pet names all the time, but ‘daddy’ makes quite a number of people cringe. Let’s clear up a few things. ‘Daddy’ isn’t about your ‘parent’ or fantasizing about fucking your parent. I’ll say it again: IT’S NOT ABOUT YOUR PARENT. In the context in which it is said, it means dude is more of a ‘care taker’.
Last year, however, I had a rethink as to the kinds of men who should be called daddy during sex. First of all, let me clear the air, my name is S and if you think women who call men ‘daddy’ during sex are low key battling daddy issues, don’t even bother reading this post.
I’ve heard several times women calling a guy ‘daddy’ because he is the giver of their mind boggling orgasms but for me giving good dick is not supposed to earn a man ‘daddy’ moans, he’s SUPPOSED to give you good dick, so crowning him for doing something he’s supposed to is like giving him point for knowing he’s supposed to breathe through his nostrils.
In 2016 I learnt that ‘daddy’ is about a man’s entire lifestyle. He can give you soul rearranging sex and treat you like shit, so his dick is out of the daddy equation.
He earns daddy by the way he takes care of you. It’s about care and nurture. It’s about actually listening to you, bending over just to see you smile, desiring nothing more than to cook for you because he knows you love to eat, and identifying your needs and meeting them without you even mentioning it. It’s about not whining when you want to spend time with your friends, waking up early in the morning to make you a bacon and cheese sandwich and then dropping you off at work, and wanting to buy you shit without even wanting so much as a thank you.
A man like this is the type of man you can have the best conversations with. A man who works hard, is diligent and smart, a man who is a boss, a man who takes care – very good care – of himself. A man who is 100% comfortable with expressing how he feels. And then, like the icing on the cake, on top of all these beautiful things that he does… He ALSO brings great dick?! He is DEFINITELY Daddy. Daddy is a provider – provider of physical, financial and emotional needs. And, of course, orgasms. Now, THAT is daddy – that is all the way daddy.
So there I was in the heat and tumbles of passion, just reminiscing on all the shit this man had done for me. I was about to call him Daddy because he more than deserved it but I bit my tongue, and it was very unlike me because I’m not trying to caution myself during sexy time. I’m not concerned about the intensity or volume of my screaming or moaning or chanting of the man’s name. I do apologize post- sexy time when I realize that I’ve bruised his arms or back. Never have I had to hold back. Truly he is Daddy to me in every way: a provider, a lover, my emotional and psychological support but I was shockingly unsure. Usually sex is about me, but I genuinely wondered if he’d mind, no one else had minded in the past but I hesitated.
After much consideration, I’ve decided to crown him Daddy to his hearing and I’m quite sure he’s going to take to it rather well. I’m not even concerned if he is a ‘father’, because when I call him Daddy during sexy time or whenever else, he sure as hell isn’t thinking about his offspring.
Can I get an amen, ladies?
Ladies and gentlemen, what do you think about calling/being called ‘daddy’ by your lover? Yay or Nay?