A lady once said that she would rather cry in a mansion than be happy in a well furnished flat. Do you believe her? Yea of course this is a very important question especially for ladies about to choose a spouse but men are not excluded because they are affected by the decisions of the ladies.
In marriage, people always have expectations as regards who they want to spend the rest of their life with. Some of these expectations include external qualities like beauty and wealth and the internal qualities like love, commitment, honesty, care, etc.Among these, one important factor which has always influenced people’s decision is wealth.
When a lady is set for a relationship, she greatly desires love and on the part of the man, it’s his responsibility to see that the lady does not lack. Eventually if they agree to tie the nut, the man is introduced to the family of the lady and vise versa. It’s obvious that at this time, many men will equally be seeking the lady’s hand in marriage. It is now left for the lady to decide whose ring she would accept. The family now comes in, they set their own scale of standard of which wealth is normally at the top. Nobody wants his daughter or sister to get married to a poor man.
In some cases, the marital contest is between a made man and a struggling man. A made man is that man that has already acquired enough wealth before marriage maybe as a result of his struggle or an advantage from his wealthy background. Whereas a struggling man is that man that has the will and hope that he would get big in life. He already has, to an extent, the basic comfort needed to establish a family. In this contest, the made man most times showcases his wealth, while the struggling man showcases his will.
This situation however places the lady in a dilemma and she goes out to ask for suggestions from family and friends. The common response she would get is that the made man would give her all the material comfort she would ever need and will also serve as an open door for the family members and a kind of fame for the family. However, some will say that she may be considered by the family of the man to be a gold digger and expect challenges from his relations. Also, that she may have no dignity before the man after the marriage. Moreover, she will be told to go for a struggling man because he will show more love and affection for that woman that would accompany him to achieve his dreams and that she would have to face little family challenges from his family members.Others, still, will say that after the man has achieved his dreams, he could end up dropping the lady for some other side chicks.
It is even more difficult in a situation where both men come to showcase a great depth of love for the lady. Parents make their own suggestions and sometimes try to lure the lady into the one they believe to be good for her.
So please if you find yourself in this situation or if someone seeks your suggestion who will you sanction; the made man or the struggling man?